To clarify - she told me the fact that my friend is her ex, after the 16th date. She told me that everytime I would bring up his name during casual convo during our relationship she would go home and cry. I unknowingly brought up his name because he’s my friend (I had no idea he was her ex)

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We fight for 2 months and it gets really bad on both sides (blocking, unblocking, namecalling, cursing). I send paragraphs trying to fix the relationship but she isn’t having it. Finally I leave her alone and she leaves me alone. Out of the blue a few weeks later she calls me and tells me she has cancer and she’s dying (this turns out to be a lie). She also tells me she never loved me and none of the relationship was real. She tells me she’s always and is still in love with my friend.

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I spoke to my friend about this, and he said they never even dated. Her and him went on 2-3 dates and had a few drunk makeouts but that’s it. He made it clear that he never wanted anything serious with her, but she was obsessed and wanted more from him, even while he moved on and was in a relationship with someone else. This “situationship between her and him happened 3 years ago. And for context, my friend is currently in a serious relationship and had been in 2 shorter ones since.

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weeks she asks me out on a third date. Goes really well and we makeout. We go on 13 more dates over 3 months. We both say I love you on the 8th date. On 14th date I ask her to be my gf. We become official. I take her on a 15 and 16th date. We’re getting more serious. After 16th date she tells me that there’s something she never told me the whole time.

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On the 4th date she told me about her most recent ex was a situationship. Turns out it was one of my best friends. Apparently they went on 3-4 dates and he didn’t want anything serious but she was in love with him. She said he supposedly treated her so poorly that she wanted to off herself. She said that she was never was going to tell me because she was afraid that if she did, I would break up with her. The same day she tells me this info, she suggests that we should break up.

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That day I convince her that it’s not worth breaking up over. We then go on a few more dates. I’m obv very mad at her for hiding the truth from the entire relationship, but I don’t express my frustration until a few weeks later when she brings up the situation again and says she did nothing wrong. I blow up at her and get really mad. We basically break up a week after I blow up at her (I called her a coward, I wasn’t mean I was just real).

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My friend never told me about her because I never told him that I was dating her (I like to keep stuff kinda private until it’s official). He said that he never told me about her because by the time he found out her and I were dating, we were already so in love that he didn’t want to ruin anything.

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It’s been 2 months no/low contact with her. Last time I spoke to her she thinks I’m an asshole to her, because I called her names (I called her a coward and a liar). AITA?

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What in the hell, NTA?? This seems very toxic and as long as yall leave each other alone (as in not investing more time into each other ir going back to each other obviously) it should be fine

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