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AITA 16h
AITA for still being pissed that none of my friends checked on me when my grandmother passed? Not ONE of my SEVEN person friend group checked on me.
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Anonymous 1h

I don’t know what this💂here is on but OP you are unequivocally NTA. The death of a relative is one of the most universally recognized hardships that calls for community support. Not so much as checking in amounts to major inconsideration and would leave any reasonable person wondering whether their friends really care about them. I’m sorry your friends let you down like that

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Anonymous 14h

Sort of? You can’t really expect people to do stuff for you. But it does suck no one checked up on you. However, did you give them a reason to? For example, I told my friends my grandpa died and no one checked on me cause I acted like it wasn’t a big deal, which it wasn’t for me, I barely bloody knew the guy. They just may have not known they needed to check up on you.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14h

They knew I was very close with her and I told them I was very sad.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14h

Then I wouldn’t really say you’re an ass cause of that. It’s normal to get frustrated especially when you feel a deep loss and want to have community outreach. It may take you saying that you want to go out to the pub or do something to really deal with those emotions. If you’re goal is to spend time with friends, than do that. It may suck taking the initiative to talk about it, but communicating to your friends that your hurt over this is better than letting it bubble.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 43m

this society is so cooked. this country’s culture is so individualistic and self centered, and then people wonder why community here doesn’t exist. it’s normal almost everywhere else to support and check in on someone who had someone close to them pass without them having to ask

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