AITA on Yik Yak | I’m from the South, so it’s not like I don’t have friends that have diff views than me. But regardless who he voted for, repeatedly lying to my face for 4 YEARS about his values isn’t just messed up, it’s scary. AITA for ending the friendship?

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AITA 13w

I’m from the South, so it’s not like I don’t have friends that have diff views than me. But regardless who he voted for, repeatedly lying to my face for 4 YEARS about his values isn’t just messed up, it’s scary. AITA for ending the friendship?

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AITA 13w

And he made up a lie about why he couldn’t tell me. After “No Kings” Day, I confronted him and he broke down and told me he’s been voting red for four years. Which means he’s lied to me about his values and so much more REPEATEDLY over the years

Anonymous 13w

I don’t tell my friends who I voted for cuz it’s none of their business. Friendships should not include politics it’s basic manners

Anonymous 13w

Okay everyone saying op ended bc of politics, step back and reread the thread bc that’s not what happened. He lied to op. Being lied to and finding out you’re friends with someone completely different than who they told you they were is scary and hurtful. It’s betrayal and op has every right to cut of someone who lied and betrayed them. This isn’t about politics. It’s about a massive multiyear lie about himself and who he is.

Anonymous 13w

Nta him lying for 4 years is insane

Anonymous 13w

Not being friends with him is whatever but if the actual reason is bc of politics then YTA fs. Even if y’all had talked about it it’s very common for people to just agree and coast through conversations about politics to avoid conflict. I have done it to friends and family on both sides for my whole life, bc it’s none of their business how I vote.

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Anonymous

#2 13w

It’d be different if we never talked politics, but him and I BOTH brought it up. He openly shared his views and just lied 😭 For FOUR YEARS which is why I can’t move past it

Anonymous

#2 13w

Also, I don’t agree with that. You can structure your friendships however you like, but I was raised by immigrants and I’m also queer. I have a right to know how the person I’m friends with feels about those things and determine whether or not I feel comfortable continuing a friendship with them. This genuinely broke my heart bc I considered him a close friend, but he’s just a liar

Anonymous

OP 13w

I am an immigrant and I’m gay as fuck, you don’t have a “right” to know anything about anyone. I don’t understand why people insist on talking about politics all the damn time, like some of us have real world problems grow up 💀 But yeah it was shitty of him to lie.

Anonymous

#2 13w

Idk why you’re upset at me about this when I literally just said he volunteered all of the info he lied about 😭 It’s not like I demanded to know everything- we openly talked about all of this stuff throughout the course of our friendship and then he clammed up about the presidential election until I confronted him about it

Anonymous

OP 13w

Girl bye I said u were in the right abt that - lying is bad, I was responding to the second part where you assumed you had more of a right to people’s personal beliefs then others bc you were “raised by immigrants and queer”, that shit had nothing to do with the guy. I’m not just attacking you, I’m saying my side, quit playing victim bruh

Anonymous

#2 13w

Idk where you’re from, but the area that I’m from is extremely conservative. The reason I said I have a right to know is bc it’s pertinent to my safety. I’m glad you have the privilege to not have to worry about that, but I literally grew up not being able to go to certain friends’ houses bc their parents were racist etc. I don’t feel entitled to know everyone’s life story, but I do want to know enough to make informed decisions about who I’m around

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OP 13w

No privilege here babe, my hometown is very conservative too, I’m just not a wimp about it, I learned how to fight lol. You’re still playing victim. Maybe don’t go throwing around the word “privilege” either and assume things about other people’s lives, u ain’t know what I been through lmao

Anonymous

#2 13w

Okay well I can’t read your tone or life story thru the screen, but I understand what you’re saying and I don’t think it’s coming off the way you mean it to. To address the first half of what you said about “playing the victim” and learning how to fight, I learned how to fight as well- just also self aware of the fact that I can’t fight a shotgun. If I want to complain about a former friend being a liar, sue me but I’m not gonna be shamed about it bc u wouldn’t

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OP 13w

Also, the idea that talking about negative experiences I’ve had as a result of someone else’s prejudice being smth I need to suck up is extremely harmful. That might not be what you meant but that’s what the tone of your comment is giving

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Anonymous

OP 13w

Again, I wasn’t talking abt ur friend. And people hurting your feelings is something to bring up to your therapist, I don’t really care. Ur coming across like u think your experiences are worse than everybody else’s and it’s funny cuz u kinda seem like u wanna complain about people having different opinions. Who gives a fuck #staystrapped

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Anonymous

#2 13w

You’re definitely in the wrong here

Anonymous

#3 13w

Tbh I wasn’t gonna argue w them till they pulled out the “I was raised by immigrants and I’m also queer.” I didn’t ask and nobody has an inherent right to anyone else’s beliefs, even if you THINK you’re more of a victim than everyone else lmao

Anonymous

#5 12w

This was not just about politics- he lied about his values etc for years

Anonymous

OP 12w

Much more common than you may think btw. Especially in college.

Anonymous

#5 12w

Common or not, it’s not smth I condone in my friendships. That’s an insane amount of time to lie