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Y’all this situation is exhausting!
4 upvotes, 5 comments. Yik Yak image post by Anonymous in AITA. "Y’all this situation is exhausting!"
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Anonymous 2w

No. If she tries to weaponize it I would say to her flatly, “I tried to organize this to AVOID anyone being upset or feeling more responsible than everyone else. I appreciate you deep cleaning everything but I WANTED to share in that effort so we could all start fresh and none of us would feel like something is dangling over our heads. Again I appreciate that you put so much effort into getting it done but I would also appreciate not having it held against me that you took it upon yourself to-

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

- do it all, because I DIDNT want any one person to feel like they had to do it all themselves. My asking for your *participation* did NOT hold the intention of you doing it all by yourself.” But then also probably end it with “I do appreciate the deep cleaning and now we have a clean slate to start with so we can ALL help upkeep your work.”

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Things can get really convoluted and misinterpreted sometimes. She probably felt attacked in some way, which isn’t your responsibility, but to help the situation you can just be honest that your intentions weren’t to attack her but to try to equalize everyone’s responsibilities and expectations of each other. Also ask her to be honest about what her expectations were and are now. Promise to upkeep the work you made yourself responsible for.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

I would use a lot of “I feel like” rather than “you did this” as to not make her further interpret some kind of blame. Like “I feel like you thought I expected you to clean everything yourself and now you’re upset with me, but that wasn’t my intention and I feel bad for not getting to participate in something I initiated.” Type shit. Just heart-to-heart it a bit. It doesn’t HAVE to be a fight. In my experience letting it get more emotionally charged will make it worse.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

I also like my last message better than some of my initial comments but these are all just ideas on points to make. Again, she DID clean, so try not to make her feel like you’re blaming her for her feelings after she did what you asked. She kinda stuck u in a sticky situation with that, but again, she probably just felt attacked and got defensive. Help loosen that defense up. You appreciate her work, AND you want her to feel at peace with it too.

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