Neither ita its hard when partners have different sex drives. You expressed your need and she set her boundary. Itlll take work to figure out sm that works for both but nta

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Maybe try to figure out if any action you make is more likely to get her to want sex? Maybe when you give her a massage or get her dinner or if you clean or if you just really pay attention to her before initiating?

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i can’t get over that you called libido “limbo” 😭

15

Scheduling sex is always a perfect first move. It may be awkward at first but you’ll get into it

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Nta. I understand both sides. This is how it is for my husband and I. I recommend having a conversation about why perhaps she isn’t wanting to have sex as much as you, and express why it’s important to you. There will be compromise on both sides

6

While having different sex drives isn’t something you can change maybe you can do things to make her enjoy sex more so maybe she’ll want to do it more, for a women the foreplay is key! If you’re not warming her up properly sex can feel like a chore and toys can help too. Ultimately just communicate and if it’s still a problem then maybe end it

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Have you tried getting off? Idk I see posts like this all the time and I know its not the same but for me it gets rid of the urge for a bit

1

Find someone else. There’s no forcing and it’s clearly going to make either you or her uncomfortable. Plenty of hot women out there, I’m sure there’s one that likes regular sex and other interests of yours.

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Honestly that sucks man. Especially her dismissing your needs.

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