AITA on Yik Yak | I’m a woman, I told my female friend that her obsession with gay men in media (obsessed with gay characters, shipping straight male characters, etc) is weird and fetish-y to me and she’s no longer speaking to me, aita?

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AITA 11w

I’m a woman, I told my female friend that her obsession with gay men in media (obsessed with gay characters, shipping straight male characters, etc) is weird and fetish-y to me and she’s no longer speaking to me, aita?

Anonymous 10w

Nah. And as someone who used to be in her shoes, it’s disgusting and disrespectful once you really wake up.

Anonymous 10w

she probably just feels embarrassed and like you're watching what she does. she's obsessing over her gay men in peace now lmao

Anonymous 10w

I don’t think you’re the asshole, though I do think it depends on how obsessed she is. I also watch a lot of gay tv shows and stuff, but that’s mostly because I can enjoy gay romance without putting myself in the shoes of a female character. I also feel like gay romance doesn’t have the same stereotypes and inherent power imbalances that straight romance typically has. But if she’s truly obsessing and it carries over to real life, that’s concerning.

Anonymous 10w

I don’t think you’re the asshole at all, but maybe it was the way you said it that bothered her? I hope y’all can talk about it.

Anonymous 10w

I appreciate everyone’s perspectives from those who commented, but I’ve noticed arguments in here and I just want to say that I’ve since talked to one of my gay bsfs and he agreed with me that she takes things too far. I thought it was possible I was being a bit dramatic, which is why I asked for other opinions but I think my perspective on this has since solidified, so I’m going to choose my own and my gay friends’ comfort over my friendship with that girl and that’s ok :) case closed!

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Anonymous 10w

Fair enough, how come though?

Anonymous 10w

It’s just making me uncomfortable. I’m bi, so I love everyone getting representation in media. But she’s a straight woman and ONLY ships male characters and such… never other women. It’s so weird to me how obsessive she is over it, like we’ve crossed the line between ally and creepy

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helpmereletpls 10w

Idk why ur downvoted U agree it’s bad to obsess like that

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#4 10w

I think someone is stalking this post just to downvote, I got yall tho :)

Anonymous 10w

Girl, bye

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#6 10w

I said it almost exactly as I said it in the most, and I cited specific examples of what made me uncomfortable. Maybe it came across ruder than I meant it, I’m not sure. She’s still ghosting me, but I hope so too, thank you

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#8 10w

Yeah! I def don’t wanna come across like I’m anti-gay media. I also watch it, and I don’t think that’s an issue on any level. It wouldn’t be creepy to me if it was just watching it, my issue has been when she started shipping two straight men (and never anyone else, never two women, never man x woman, etc) AND when she started “shipping” our straight male friends in real life (and again… no one else)

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OP 10w

Okay yeah that’s definitely too far

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#7 10w

Bye bye sister

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OP 10w

Bc it’s really not that deep… I’m a trans woman and don’t put this much thought into this shit

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Anonymous 10w

Hey so I’m aware!

Anonymous 10w

It’s called intersectionality

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Anonymous 10w

😂🤣ok then

Anonymous 10w

YOU… shiver me timbers

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OP 10w

You made the right choice. I was once like her and I had so many issues during it. Now that I’m out and Jesus delivered me from it Im telling you it is so freeing😭🙏🏽