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AITA 14w
I need help. Some context, I’m moving into an apartment this fall with 3 other people. I have told the apartment complex that I plan on bringing and emotional support animal. I really want to have her there, I’ve been dealing with some really bad—
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Anonymous 14w

Tell the apartment manager that you have an ESA and that your roommate is allergic. Let him sort it out for you! You provide your documentation for your ESA. Per the law about ESA, landlords have to make “reasonable accommodation” to fit you and your ESA. Such as switching your roommate or giving you a single b

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Anonymous 14w

Depression spells and having her there brings me a lot of comfort. She has stopped me from self harming multiple times. I have just been informal that the apartment has put me with a random roommate that is allergic to cats badly. The apartment is lofted, I’m on the second story and she on the 1st. I regularly wipe down my cat and brush her to deal with dander. I’m going to be bring quality air filters. My room is bigger than my dorm so I don’t think the cat minds being in a smaller space.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

I am a terrible person if I go ahead and bring her knowing of my roommates allergies? The plan was anyway to keep her in my room ( I know that sounds bad but believe me even when I’m back in At my parents she likes to be in smaller space).

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

So you should let your roommate know that you have an ESA cat and she will stay in your room. Also let the apartment manager person know that because of the allergies of a roommate, you would like to be notified of there is ever an opening to switch apartments or rooms.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

You are not an asshole for requiring your ESA to be with you. You are obviously working to try and minimize and exposure your roommate could have and it wasn’t you choice to have someone allergic to your ESA as a roommate.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

Now if your roommate has a severe reaction despite all the extra measures, you might have to consider moving or temporarily not having your ESA with you

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Anonymous replying to -> mother_russia 14w

Thank you! I’ll try to reach out the manager. I just hate confrontation

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

That’s totally understandable and I’m sorry you’re in this mess rn

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

Ohh no. I’m sorry but this one won’t be all too pleasant. Just know all the policy, rules, and LAW are on your side. The apartment complex MUST accommodate you and your cat.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

As someone who’s extremely allergic to cats, I see your view but I can also understand for your roommate. I lived in a house and I lived on the top floor, while my roommate lived on the bottom with her cat. My allergies are very bad that I couldn’t even sit in our own living room without breaking into hives/ eyes swelling up within 30 minutes. HOWEVER, my roommate did nothing to help prevent this. I was only upset because I paid the same amount of money as the other 5 of my roommates

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

And couldn’t even enjoy my own living room. It was just one of those things where he’d let his cat go everywhere in the house without helping to prevent dander. As a roommates pov, i’d either ask to be switched, or have you move just because of that. I don’t think you’re an ass for bringing your ESA, but I definitely think someone possibly switching would help future arguments if nothing you’re planning to do (cleaning dander, air qualifiers, etc) works. But as someone who’s extremely allergic

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

I would appreciate you even just for trying to help. Possibly keeping the cat in your room, and room only can also probably help a ton! My roommate just didn’t give a shit. The cat would even walk on our counters and kitchen table and he just didn’t care. Thankfully I graduated and will never have to see him again.

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