If you feel your boyfriend has been selfish lately and you are not in the mood to sleep with him then you don’t have to. Hell even if you just haven’t been feeling your best, sex is not and should not be considered a requirement. That’s a grapey point of view

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Sex shouldn't be used as a bargaining chip and the removal of it shouldn't be used as punishment, however I can completely understand not wanting to sleep with your partner especially when they do things that take you out of the mood to. This shouldn't be downvoted tbh

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NTA he’s gotta be okay with not having sex with you even if it wasn’t a “punishment”

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I think there's a fundamental misunderstanding some guys have about this. You should be able to tell if your partner is "withholding sex as punishment" (a genuine rarity) or the obvious behavior of not WANTING to fuck them because they're doing something wrong. Not one wants to fuck someone who's annoying them, grossing them out, or turning them off in some other way. Being annoyed with or grossed out by someone is a turn off. If a partner feels like they have to punish you, they're not horny rn

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sex isn’t mandatory/ included in a relationship. You are not entitled to have sex w ur partner just bc ur tg. I think u should take this as a red flag bc it’s getting grapey n weird. he’s not entitled to your body and if he’s being weird / turning u off lets take it as a sign. Our bodies tell us before our minds do

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Breakup ❤️

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I use it as a punishment with my bf and I don’t feel bad abt it bc yes that’s the consequences of his actions and I’m not giving out if he doesn’t treat me the way I deserve to be treated

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he can’t be shocked when his pussy drying actions do jus that like why do men always act shocked as if they wouldn’t b turned off by the exact same shit

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you need to end this relationship asap. your post and replies are actually heartbreaking and he sounds like an asshole. RUN FOREST RUN

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sex is not and never will be a “right.” no human has the rights to someone else’s body and if he has a problem with that let the next girl deal with it. tell the manchild straight to his face that his behavior is not sexy or attractive so if he wants to get laid fix it

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The fact that your bf wouldn't mind if he had sex w u even if u didn't want it (or cares more ab the physical action than the mutual want) is a major red flag.

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You don’t owe him your body no matter the situation

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this is the problem is that some men think if they treat you well enough that they’re entitled to sex with you. like it doesn’t come out of pure intention it’s because they think that if they can keep ip the nice treatment that you’ll give it up eventually but in reality nobody is entitled to sex.

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I feel like your feelings are valid. If you are not in more because you are not due to certain variables, then you are right to withhold. It’s your body. You want to have *** when you are comfortable and right now isn’t the time and that’s valid

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sex is not mandatory in a relationship, sex is a form of connection that some people choose to have. As an asexual who only has sex sometimes with my bf, I never understood why guys genuinely believe it’s abusive to not wanna have sex with them 😭 i got so lucky with my man but i fear it’s bare minimum to not get mad at your partner for not wanting sex

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If you’re withholding sex as a punishment then yes you’re the asshole. Just break up

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Just fuck if you don’t want to get cheated on simple

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