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AITA 15w

Is it wrong of me to break up with my boyfriend because I don’t like that he smokes everyday? I smoke too, but holy. I feel like he could be doing something better with his time.

Anonymous 15w

Valid af tbh it’s the same w drinking anything in excess is an issue 🤷‍♀️ like even tho we both college students there’s a difference between smoking a lil after work vs going thru an oz a day to feel normal

Anonymous 15w

have you spoken to him about it?

Anonymous 15w

Idk id definitely talk to him about it first and make sure he knows you don’t want him to quit fully but to dial it back to as little as you do. If he takes it like you want him to quit quit then he might think you’re being hypocritical:(

Anonymous 14w

A bit hypocritical given that you smoke. But every day it is definitely a problem!

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#3 15w

i’ve talked to him about zyns because he’s really bad about those too, but i don’t know how to bring this stuff up without making it feel like an attack on him. don’t care if he uses i just think he should have at least a little moderation

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OP 15w

i would talk to him about it first. if he responds in a defensive/negative way def break up with him

Anonymous 14w

This and also it’s pretty selfish to keep a relationship going only because maybe they’ll change in a way that suits your needs better. I also don’t think it’s ever good for a person to change only for someone else’s approval, you have to really want it for yourself. I would definitely talk to him about it. It might even help to outright start the convo with “I don’t want you to feel like I’m attacking you, bc that’s not my intention.” It lays a bit of groundwork before getting into it.

Anonymous

#6 14w

I also think he may take it as a bit hypocritical, which is a valid viewpoint. But I also understand where you’re coming from OP. I used to smoke 6-8 blunts A DAY, on average. I could not have continued college that way. When I graduated I was still smoking daily but only 1-2 little bubbler bowls, so SIGNIFICANTLY less. It made a huge impact on my health physically and mentally, which I rolled my eyes at the idea of until actually slowing myself down and realizing the difference.

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OP 14w

Did he feel like it was an attack when you talked to him about the zyns

Anonymous

#7 14w

no he actually did try to quit like 2 or 3 times but it’ll be for like a week and then he just goes back to them

Anonymous 14w

I mean my aunt and uncle have been married for decades and my uncle still smokes at work and hides it