Yik Yak logo
Download TikTok Instagram X
Yik Yak icon
Join communities on Yik Yak Download
AITA icon
AITA 5w
i’ve been w my bf for almost 3y & found out yesterday that he’s in a gc w his friends & two girls who i used to be best friends w that seriously betrayed me. i told him i felt betrayed that he’s in contact w those girls but now i feel like TA bc he left
comment

9
upvote 20 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 5w

Girl 3 years?? I hate to say it but, if he’s able to hide that from you what else could he possibly be hiding. Also, you’re the girlfriend! He should be prioritizing you over these random girls.

upvote 8 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 5w

Every group chat has side chats. He can’t start a chat with all the people not these 2 girls and leave the other one?

upvote 5 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 5w

oh post wouldn’t let me add more text but basically one girl got all of his friends to think i was a slut taking advantage of him (after i was assaulted, bc of being assaulted) and ended up moving out of my house bc of her. we had a long talk and then she told everyone it was bc i yelled at her (not true). the other one gave me a hate letter at my birthday party after not talking to me for a year. i have both of these girls blocked on everything and assumed he did too

upvote 4 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 3d

I do not disagree with your thoughts on this situation. However, let’s make sure we are not jumping to conclusions here. Did he make the group chat? Did he add the backstabbers? Did he not tell you because hes on some sketchy shit, or did he not tell you because he was afraid of how you would react? Did he want to be in the group chat? Are there mutual friends that would make it a likely scenario to be placed in a group chat together?

upvote 1 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

but yesterday i saw one of their names pop up on his phone and i was just dumbfounded. i tried to get him to see why i felt so betrayed after saying for so long and he watched all that they did to me. i just thought my relationship was more important than a group chat. anyways he ended up leaving it but i know he’s frustrated and i feel like the asshole.

upvote 4 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

that’s what i said as well but apparently that wasn’t an option. idk i thought we were too grown for stuff like this but here we are

upvote 4 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

It’s one thing if they’re friends and there’s no betrayal their relationship just make you uncomfortable. For there to be physical evidence of bad behavior towards you and he’s still choosing them, I’ve seen less reasons someone got broken up with

upvote 5 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

he did not know either girl until after we started dating, so there is no relationship there. and it’s not really an insecurity thing. it’s like these girls have seriously messed w my head and caused all sorts of issues for me (putting it lightly) and i cannot fathom why he’d be in contact w them it’s so weird

upvote 7 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #3 3d

Definitely NTA for being upset that he didn’t talk to you about it, but you need to understand the full situation before you get angry at him for being in the group chat. He may have been placed in the chat because of circumstances beyond His control or something. Also, my personal opinion is that you should never make somebody stop being friend with someone because they did you wrong. It’s respectful if they do cut the other person off, but if you make them pick sides… ya feel me?

upvote 1 downvote