You are absolutely not the asshole you gave them plenty of support and chances

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NTA, they have a problem and are not a "good drunk"

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And I feel like the bad person bc I know they deep down want to make strides, but every time they’re thinking about drinking they never listen to me and go do it anyway. And won’t attend rehab at all

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NTA

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And it’s embarrassing going out bc they argue back and forth with servers, etc. bc they’re drunk af and won’t even remember it the next day. I’ve tried for the past 2 years and I feel it’s not getting better and anything I say doesn’t matter

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NTA, you can still support them after you separate and be friends, but its time to be clear with him that the relationship has taken a toll and he will need to continue his healing without your relationship.

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