
genuinely stop inviting him over until he gets the hint these dudes aren’t welcome, and maybe confront him about the humor if it’s still a problem? like directly ask him what *exactly* is so funny about hating women and saying the n-word and do not let him be vague or flippant about it. “you just don’t get it” “then explain it to me” “it’ll take too long” “we got all night” etc etc. make him uncomfortable and embarrassed