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AITA 15w
I have a very negative opinion of my dad. I have so many moments I can clock him on being a manipulator and horrible to me since I was a kid (one was an attempt bc of him at 15). However he’s changed since i got into college and has supported me…(1/2)
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Anonymous 15w

on all my endeavors as a kid from sports, to cooking, to traveling, the arts and if I ever wanted to get dinner with friends. While he has paid for some of my opportunities to travel, he loves to frequently comment that I never deserved any of my trips even when I was fully funded by a third party provider on some of them. One time, we went back to a country he had never been to before (for a conference), where I went the year before and I speak the language. And he told me I didn’t deserve…(2/3

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Anonymous 14w

Not at all, I think it helped spark a good conversation

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

to go despite my name being on the invitation after doing such a good job leading workshops and meetings in 2023. Last year, he was lucky enough to go with me after my mom was seriously pushing for it and she honestly guilt tripped me by saying “if you don’t go with him, you will regret it for the rest of your life” but that trip is a different story. In addition, I just had a very emotional conversation about our relationship. I made a “joke” saying that he sees me as a disappointment bc (3/4)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

he was shaking his head in disapproval after i did my turn in a board game. After the game, he called me into his office and he looked like he wanted to cry. He talked abt how he brags to everyone he knows abt me and my brother. He compares his childhood to me talking abt how he never hit me or my brother while my dad would get hit by his mom. He says i shouldnt let the past affect me even though my dad didnt talk to my grandma over 20 years bc of his past. Overall he told me that he has.. (4/5)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

“never” seen me as a disappointment which given my past experiences, idk if i can believe him. He has no idea that i tried to кмs bc of him bc now that he’s changed, he would live with a regret and guilt that i can’t say that. He also has times of me being a rude child/teen so technically it’s a two way street. But anyway AITA for bringing up the past to him?

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