Anonymous prenta. 2d

thats another thing he says “im his last chance at life” so if he loses me than he’s losing his life bc he’ll have nothing left to live for (not true at all). he says now he’s embarrassed to bring me around his friends bc they all know “what i did” but again, i only messaged that one to make sure he was okay. i was going to move to his town (out of state) and transfer to their college but now idk if i am anymore or what im even doing.

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Anonymous #2 2d

Also, if he were genuinely going to go through it bc he was suicidal, he probably wouldn’t tell you in the first place bc it would screw with his chances of going through it. It’s bad already and will only get worse if you stay.

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Anonymous OP 2d

Nah stop right there. You did nothing wrong. If he didn’t want to be embarrassed then he shouldn’t have said it in the first place. What did he expect you to do? You did the right thing even if he embarrassed himself. Now if his friends didn’t already know now they do that he has mental health issues. It’s a good thing in the long run. Don’t beat yourself up over it. And surely don’t let him make you feel like you are a monster, bad person, or bad girlfriend for this

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Anonymous OP 2d

I dated a guy like that. My first bf, you fall for a lot of things. But it’s just straight up manipulation to make you feel horrible and guilty. That’s why he got mad when you asked a friend to check on him. He’s embarrassed bc he didn’t mean it, and now people think he did. It was a tactic to fuck with your emotions and he’s mad it didn’t work like he planned. My advice is to definitely leave, he most likely won’t do anything especially if he has friends/family to support him

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Anonymous #5 2d

All in all, his choices and his mental health are not your responsibility. You shouldn’t stay in a confusing and upsetting relationship just because you have empathy. You should do what’s best for YOU and YOUR mental and emotional well-being.

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Anonymous #5 1d

idk 😕. i want to help him bc i love and care abt him but its alr costed a lot of my own mental health and idk how much longer ill be able to take it. i get so worried when he says stuff like that bc ik he WILL end his life. he has a big scar on his forearm alr and has attempted in the past so i dont want to ever push him to that point. in a way i think everyone knows abt his mental health bc of his visible scar, but he’s still pissed off that i dragged other ppl into our issues

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Anonymous OP 1d

he says he has zero trust in me now and thanked me for everything bc even his ex texted him checking in on him. i did try leaving last night bc of how pissed off he was and from all the shit he was saying, but he got more upset when i tried bc he said i was just making things worse but atp how does me staying make the situation any better? im worried he did something to himself last night and i alr unfriended & deactivated all my insta accts so i cant ask his friend anything anymore

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Anonymous OP 1d

Absolutely do not transfer colleges for a man. You need to break up with him, for the reasons that everyone else has stated. If you are concerned that he will harm himself after you do that you can contact one of his friends with something along the lines of “I just broke up with X, please check on him because he has threatened to do X” and then block them. Block your bf when he becomes your ex too.

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Anonymous OP 1d

i dated someone just like this who would also hurt himself at every minor inconvenience or him not getting his way and let me just say the longer you stick around the more it will effect you long term. To this day i still have panic attacks thinking that i make ppl want to kts just because i said no to plans or got in a disagreement. It’s not worth your own sanity and it’s toxic and manipulative.

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Anonymous OP 1d

1) call his bluff. figure out where he is then say "i can't help you with suicidal ideation. i'm calling to get you help" 2) leave. ASAP. for your sake AND his 3) only go to that college if it is good for you - independent of him. if not, don't go

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Anonymous OP 1d

proud of u ik it’s hard but you’ll see immediate relief in your day to day life i promise

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Anonymous #7 1d

i hope so:/

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Anonymous #10 1d

And I know this because he proceeded to use the fact that I "stalked" his account and got his family involved to make me do whatever the fuck he wanted. He was never mad because it was embarrassing, he was mad that he was caught and that's exactly what happens when people threaten 💀. Just like what everyone else is saying, he's trying to manipulate you. You're not alone. And if he offs himself because you chose to protect yourself, that's on him.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Baby you did nothing wrong. You were concerned about someone you love, and you wanted to make sure he was safe. And all the things he’s saying, and getting upset when you try to leave for your own well being and because he claims you’re worsening his? All manipulation. If he’s gonna act like you are the problem, then he should have no problem w you leaving. Stay safe honey, I hope you get out of that awfulness soon.

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