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AITA for not inviting one of my second cousins to my wedding? Real reason is because I haven’t spoke to her in years and my family says she is a druggie who lost custody of her kids.

116 upvotes, 32 comments. Yik Yak image post by Anonymous in AITA. "AITA for not inviting one of my second cousins to my wedding? Real reason is because I haven’t spoke to her in years and my family says she is a druggie who lost custody of her kids."

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Anonymous 9w

It’s YOUR wedding, if you don’t want her there that’s the end of it.

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Anonymous 9w

her response is proof enough that u r not the asshole

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Anonymous 9w

She’s doing too much

Anonymous 9w

bye you better than me bc I would’ve said “sorry I don’t want drug addicts at my wedding” and blocked her ass🤣🤣 it’s your wedding, your special day so no you’re NTA!!! you invite whoever you want

Anonymous 9w

Sounds like she knew what the real reason was

Anonymous 9w

i wish you would have been honest tbh

Anonymous 9w

U better than me i would have told her she could kick rocks 😂😂😂

Anonymous 9w

I feel like somehow you would’ve been less of an asshole if you’d just told her like it is instead of lying to spare feelings. You can tell she already knows something up with the first text and saying you weren’t able to invite everyone when she’s already dug and gossiped with others to find you invited everyone else from Texas confirmed to her that you’re bullshitting

Anonymous 9w

There are some first cousins who won’t be invited to my wedding because I literally know nothing about them besides one piece of gossip per year. Why would you invite a total wild card to your wedding?

Anonymous 9w

i don’t even know who my second cousins are 😭 NTA

Anonymous 9w

the fact that she’s confronting you for not inviting her to your wedding is proof she does not belong at your wedding

Anonymous 9w

YTA. If you invited the ENTIRE family and are only leaving her out as punishment for past substance abuse then that’s rude.

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Anonymous

#2 9w

Would’ve cussed her out and blocked her

Anonymous

#3 9w

Yeah! She didn’t sound like she wanted to be there for you more for her reputation

Anonymous

#10 9w

There were other people from Texas not invited. She’s lying. I did great aunts and uncle first and then only second cousins I was close to. Plus my grandma says she’s going to jail for 30 days now and can’t come anyways.

Anonymous

#10 9w

It’s not a punishment to have boundaries against having people known for doing drugs at your wedding. They’re not entitled to anything

Anonymous

#7 9w

I wish she would’ve texted literally ANYBODY ELSE except the bride

Anonymous

OP 9w

Oh ok then NTA

Anonymous

#10 9w

also who said PAST substance abuse??? she could still be on drugs

Anonymous

#10 9w

Sometimes people ruin their reputations FOREVER due to their behavior on drugs. It depends on what they did. even if they got sober, great! Do well away from me. You don’t have to forget what someone’s done even if you do forgive them. Plus, look at her response?! Clearly not a good person

Anonymous

OP 9w

why

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Anonymous

#10 9w

discriminating against someone for a past drug problem when you’re hiring? bad, wrong, don’t do that. being deeply affected by a family member’s behavior when on drugs to the point you have to cut them off? not the same.

Anonymous

#15 9w

Good point

Anonymous

#13 9w

True. I grew up in a very “we’re all indebted to family no matter what” culture so it takes a lot of undoing

Anonymous

#7 9w

It’s not proper wedding etiquette and we aren’t even close. It would be more appropriate for her to have messaged my dad (her first cousin), “why wasn’t I invited to your daughter’s wedding?”. Never put pressure on the bride.

Anonymous

#15 9w

Yes thank you!

Anonymous

OP 9w

i don’t think that’s how everyone views “wedding etiquette” i think you just don’t like her lmfao

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Anonymous

OP 9w

but i would have been woman enough to tell her the actual reason so we differ in multiple ways

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Anonymous

#7 9w

It is definitely in poor taste/against etiquette to ask the bride (or anyone really) why you didn’t get an invite to an event, especially a wedding. Unless you’re like literally the maid of honor (so have a reason to expect you’d be invited), never just assume you’re invited

Anonymous

#7 9w

i have to second op that there is wedding etiquette like that. generally weddings are the one time in your adult life you’re supposed to suck it up and do whatever the couple (especially the bride if your family is super traditional) wants to show you care. obviously i can’t speak to every culture across the world, but in my experience, everything you do surrounding a wedding is supposed to be for the couple’s happiness or convenience.

Anonymous

OP 9w

okay but now what did grandma do 😭

Anonymous

OP 9w

but seriously you’re NTA, personally i would’ve been a bit more up front, but you have every right to not want someone there. as someone mentioned in another comment, this is one of the few times in anyone’s adult life they get to be picky. live your truth queen, and i hope you’re day is magical 🤸🏼✨