Anonymous #1 4w

more so of they’re like soo what do you have to report as a mandated reporter? i said if you or your kids are attempting harm others or themselves but i’ll talk to you (if your kid is saying he or she wants to kill themselves)

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Anonymous #1 4w

i also added that if others are trying & making active attempts to hurt your kid or you, i legally have to report it. they’re like it’s so rude of you to saying you want to kill my kids and i would never be around with someone who’s trying to harm my child. im like understandable i wouldn’t want that happen either, however 90% of child sexual assault cases happen with someone who’s trying to knows them closely so something to be mindful of!

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Anonymous #1 4w

two out of three of my nephews were sexually abused by their mom & her boyfriend, which court wants to give her whole custody “cause she’s the mom who deserves to see her kids” . i don’t want the same for my friends and their kiddos.

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Anonymous #2 4w

well they asked me like what i do for living. i don’t mean it in a threatening way. this is what i do is that i’m a therapist & they’re like oh whatcha so with all of that. i’m like i have to legally report certain things such as xyz

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Anonymous OP 4w

okay, that makes a lot more sense, it kind of sounded like you randomly told them “hey so I’m required to report you if you’re abusive and I definitely will, really sorry about that haha” or something along those lines. I assumed that’s not what you did, but I was still thinking that you had told them that your mandate applies to your whole life, which doesn’t sound like the way being a mandatory reporter worked for me at all

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Anonymous #2 4w

nah. i used to work in residential treatment with adolescents & teenagers, mainly boys who have sexual offenses. currently working in a maximum security psychiatric hospital working with men who have sexual & violent related legal convictions, who have pleaded insanity (1% of pleas).. so i tend to get a lot questions of what that looks like & they ask what i report. it’s just frustrating cause it’s like do i agree with their crime being a predator & doing things to the vulnerable? nah i don’t.

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Anonymous #2 4w

and they’ll sometimes ask me hey what are ways i could keep my kid safe from things from the people you work with& i’ll say one of them is making sure when you post your kid, don’t have it all public on social media (which they do) because people can be creeps & look on your page for that & when it’s public anyone can view it.. also told them to be aware of who they hang out with with their kid cause 90% of sexual abuse cases happen with someone they personally know

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Anonymous OP 4w

so then i am seen as the asshole, according to them cause it’s like i don’t want your kid or you to be a statistic cause i’ve seen it all & i don’t want them to go through the same struggles respectfully

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Anonymous OP 2w

Why were they so upset abt u saying u have to report if they abuse their kids? 😭 hello?

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Anonymous #3 2w

i’ve done it before & they weren’t happy that i’ve done it before😭😭

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Anonymous OP 2w

theyve abused their kids before to the point you needed to report it?!?! what a self report on their end…. concerning asf!! Drop those friends imo!!

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Anonymous #3 2w

it was with MY EX SISTER IN LAW that i reported & they’re like that’s so rude of you to be doing that cause we wouldn’t want our kids around people like that.. like YOU THINK I WANT TO HANG AROUND WITH CHILD TOUCHERS WITH MY NEPHEWS??? hell nah

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Anonymous OP 2w

NAH WHAAATTT… crazy self report💔

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Anonymous #3 2w

it’s just crazy to think that they think i’m AH for my career choice is being a mandated reporter

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Anonymous #3 2w

and i’m just questioning AITA cause i told my friends that i’m in a career where i’m a mandated reporter cause they’ll ask what i do for living?? like do you want me to lie to y’all & say that i am something else for living??

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Anonymous OP 2w

Do they just not want you in their business or smth?? Imo, more ppl keeping an eye out on my kid’s safety would make me feel safer and happier ngl. Thats soo weird of them

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Anonymous #3 2w

they literally have stopped talking to me since i told them i’m a mandated reporter. i wholeheartedly agree with keeping an eye out for kiddos safety. i am that aunt where i will watch my nephews in sight distant, cause i simply don’t trust others, due to their past of being SAed by their own mom & her ex boyfriend.

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Anonymous OP 2w

thats literally insane… ig theres nothing you can do now but depending on the ages of the kids, you can try and keep an open line for them if they need help? 😭

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Anonymous #3 2w

my nephews are 8,7,4 years old. the friends’ kiddos are all under the age of 4 years old. like oops i’m sorry i work with the worst population of people you could think of & trying to give you the warning signs & tips / tricks of what to look for when your child has been abused / groomed / neglected

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Anonymous #3 2w

like AITA for just trying to help & be like look buddy bed wetting is a sign of being SAed

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Anonymous OP 2w

literally, its crazy they dont want to hear it… sounds like a self report to me 🚩

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