Anonymous #1 5w

Your dad is an exception, not the rule. But still that’s great he does! Hope your meal is good today.

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Anonymous #8 5w

Ew lmfao

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Anonymous #3 5w

Theres plenty of cultures where the men are the primary cooks like mine in jamaica but i see what yall are saying

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Anonymous #13 5w

"never getting out of the gender roles" and it's about the current roles that CURRENTLY take place in most families🥴 don't be dense pls

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Anonymous #7 5w

didn’t deny it lmao🤣

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Anonymous #8 5w

and y'all should be at war protecting the country but here u r being cunty on sidechat 💀

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Anonymous #11 5w

I find it funny how you make statements attacking all men and be irritated when men are offended. All OP needed to do was word it differently. Maybe you’re the dense one.

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Anonymous #11 5w

shows how much knowledge u have about our countries current military and war status 🤣🤣

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Anonymous #5 5w

who said "all men" u slow ass mf... use ur basic logic, common sense, and context clues and it'd be clear she doesn't mean literally all men

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Anonymous #8 5w

regardless u could be doing something productive and yet here u r... where u don't belong

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Anonymous #11 5w

Calm down 😔

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Anonymous #11 5w

Now my responses are taken by verbatim 😂😂 you are a wreck. Stop being dense

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Anonymous #11 5w

why are u on this app texting when u should be getting me a beer

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Anonymous #5 5w

is "dense" the only insult yk? u must be bored or trolling atp

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Anonymous #14 5w

“Females”

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Anonymous #11 5w

Purposely being confused cute.

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Anonymous #8 5w

and u should be sitting in a closed garage w the car running 🤭

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Anonymous #5 5w

purposely acting slow 🤭 very manly

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Anonymous #11 5w

Clearly u have an agenda against men 😂

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Anonymous #16 5w

ppl are gonna talk about gender roles as long as it affects them ☺️ hope this helps

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Anonymous #5 5w

ok so what's ur agenda then? assuming i have an agenda against men when men are the ones being misogynistic in these comments? lol ok. dense.

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Anonymous #11 5w

I have no agenda. Men and women are equals and you guys consistently have to make it about gender battle. We are two genders of the same species 😂 stop trying to cause problems that weren’t already there 😂😂😂

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Anonymous #5 5w

the post is simply saying u should be more thankful to the women that cook in ur family. if it don't apply to u u can let it fly. but to act like most women don't have to cook for their family is crazy. misogyny and gender roles have run this world for centuries but when women ask for appreciation all of sudden they don't exist..?

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Anonymous #11 5w

No it’s not. Lmao you are doing it by shitting on men. And maybe for once, you should stop thinking about yourself and think about how we are on indigenous lands and how those people were sacrificed for us to celebrate today… you’re putting scenarios out there like it’s mine. I respect women, stop putting people that don’t around you 💀 have a good holiday, remember it’s not about yourself!

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Anonymous #5 5w

nobody said anything about ur specific scenario.......... and obvs most of us understand the indigenous sacrifices... duh... doesn't take away from the women that were forced into the kitchen bc the men didn't wanna cook. yet again. not about ur specific situation. if it doesn't apply. what? let it fly. and i don't surround myself w ppl that don't respect me u silly goose. that's a strange assumption...

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Anonymous #21 5w

then obviously this post isn't about u🤡

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Anonymous #1 5w

Both of my grandparents cook together to make the meal, my grandpa made the turkey and potatoes, and my grandma made the flan and gravy

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Anonymous #5 5w

yo what did your family build your house from scratch?? 😭

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"couples" so not just the man? 🌝

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Anonymous #5 5w

like be fr when's the last time a man in ur family built something vs the last time a woman cooked?

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Anonymous #11 5w

You can have gay/lesbian couples 😂😂 you’re digging the hole even deeper for yourself. You live a sad life.

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girl please it’s not like that’s the most common scenario these days seeing as we got built houses all over the place and it’s 2025

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Anonymous #5 5w

so did your gay fathers build your house then

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Anonymous #24 5w

You guys can’t be this idiotic, funny how you guys are not picking everything I say. Must be some children because nothing I said is uncommon. Maybe y’all should stop being one dimensional and selfish.

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Anonymous #5 5w

*nitpick

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Anonymous #5 5w

digging the hole deeper how? 💀 bc u have no logical argument?

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Anonymous #24 5w

You got a problem with gay people doing stuff? Gay people can build too 💀Homophobia is a bad look.

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Anonymous #3 5w

Are you insinuating that the rule is women cook for the holidays…?

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Anonymous #5 5w

"selfish"?? ok ur just saying shit atp

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Anonymous #25 5w

r u too dense to realize most times women are the ones being made to cook? holiday or not.............?

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Anonymous #11 5w

You’re the one implicating that couples are strictly cis gender to twist the argument in your favor 💀💀 bitch go somewhere fr. You’re a bigot and you can’t accept it.

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Anonymous #5 5w

never did. ur slow ass however implicated that men r the ones who "built the house" u can not be this dumb... slow ass bitch💀

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Anonymous #11 5w

Lol so now you’re lying. I’ve seen you in every thread on here being a bigot. Please seek help. Hope this helps!

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Anonymous #5 5w

then u were so quick to call a woman a bitch just bc ur mad 😭 bby ur the bigot tf

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Anonymous #5 5w

can u not read ur own post...?

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Anonymous #11 5w

Why are you trying to insult me when it appears we are on the same side of this argument 🤨 women should never be expected to cook all the time PARTICULARLY on the holidays

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Anonymous #11 5w

U cant read yours lmao not talking to a bigot who also is homophobic 😂😂 also double texting me💀 sucks that your alone on thanksgiving. Hope your day is better 🫶🏾

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Anonymous #25 5w

Cuz she can’t read and wants to just reply to seem important.

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Anonymous #28 5w

That’s not how all families work bruh

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Anonymous #2 5w

nobody said "all" tho, y'all see a general statement that's not praising men and immediately get offended and take ts personal

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Anonymous #28 5w

How do you know it’s millions. Most households I know it’s women cooking the sides and the man will be cooking the turkey/ham. Sounds like the people supporting this thread are trying to make their situation the actual standard but that’s just not true.

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Anonymous #5 5w

Oh no. The man has to dry rub it and put it in the oven for seven hours. Not NEARLY as much work as making pies, casseroles, sides, dips, and everything else. Just cause they add onto it doesn’t mean that everything else doesn’t fall to the woman. If the shoe doesn’t fit, you’re not Cinderella.

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Anonymous #11 5w

This is a crazy statement

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Anonymous #2 5w

It’s not the mother’s job to take care of EVERYTHING. From making ALL the side dishes/main dishes to actually cleaning the dishes to setting the table to cleaning everything up when it’s all over.

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Anonymous #5 5w

don't play stupid 🫤 men have told women for centuries to "get in the kitchen" mfs are saying ts in THESE comments so uhhhh clearly it's quite common

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Anonymous #11 5w

Thank GOD there’s someone else with common sense in this fucking comment section

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Anonymous #28 5w

Lmao now you’re moving the goal posts. There’s more than one way to cook a turkey 😂 some ways take longer than others. Also I highly doubt that the women is the only one doing all of those sides. That’s YOUR household not everyone else’s. Can’t possible assume that. Some men also makes sides. Stop trying to be victim on a holiday that benefits off of indigenous peoples downfall. Just be fucking thankful ffs

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Anonymous #5 5w

Didn’t move shit, I’m holding my ground. It is not common for men to help and yall know it but some of yall would literally rather die than just admit men need to help out more.

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Anonymous #5 5w

Also, my boyfriend is helping me make dinner. I say this as someone who WAS practically a slave to a manchild. Yall think I don’t fucking know ball.

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Anonymous #11 5w

Oh wow, you’re mad that a college anonymous app has trolls 🤯 nobody cares about the children trolling. I’m talking about actually families 😂 so there goes that argument. Stop acting like every household has a verbal abusive narcissistic running the holidays. Many households the women actually runs believe it or not.

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Anonymous #5 5w

who said i was homophobic..? and assuming i'm alone..? sounds like projection boo idk, hope ur day is worse tho 🫶🏾

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Anonymous #5 5w

and bitch this is sidechat i can double comment all i want 😭 ts was made 30 secs after tf

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Anonymous #28 5w

You say it’s not common for men to help but then say yours is exactly doing that 😂 are u drunk?? Generalizing again when you simply don’t know everyone 💀

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Anonymous #11 5w

Not homophobic but didn’t deny being a Bigot…Proved my point sis. Mad on a holiday 💀

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Anonymous #5 5w

u didn't either..? 💀 if i'm mad wtf r u? "sis" lmfao

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Anonymous #5 5w

I am lucky. Idiot.

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Anonymous #5 5w

Oof what a terrible take….

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Anonymous #11 5w

I’ve proven it many times but reading and comprehension isn’t your strong suit… 😬

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Anonymous #5 5w

girl if u oh so family oriented y r u still replying? u just saying shit to argue atp

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Anonymous #11 5w

Stop replying then 😂 I got time I already ate

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Anonymous #5 5w

i'm not the one sitting here acting high n mighty about replying 🫤

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Anonymous #5 5w

what i just asked if you were in the population of people you were saying is so common

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Anonymous #18 5w

Exactly like in my family my dad did everything for me like cooks, cleans, he works, he used to buy me pads when my mother was mentally abusive. Not every family is the same so maybe say appreciate those who are preparing the meals and stop bashing people who have different experiences

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Anonymous #27 5w

They’re just gonna downvote because your telling the truth

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Anonymous #11 5w

Great, now let's talk about how men are the ones that earned the money to put the food on the table

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Anonymous #33 5w

eh not in this household, man is retired, woman still cooks and cleans after work🥱

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Anonymous #33 5w

and if u really wanna get into it, talk about it fully. why do men typically make more money than women? that's not women's choice lmfao

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Anonymous #11 5w

ppl are gonna talk about gender roles as long as it affects them ☺️ hope this helps

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Anonymous #11 5w

The gap is mostly due to women choosing lower paying jobs. It doesn't make sense otherwise, if employers could pay a woman less than a man for the exact same job then why would they hire men at all?

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Anonymous #33 5w

u really thought u ate w my quote💀💀appreciate it ig. and it's not about having the exact same job. a girl literally just got murdered at her male dominated job, women choose female-dominated careers bc they get chosen less for the ones where men dominate... a quick google search could give u more details

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Anonymous #11 5w

retirement doesn’t mean no income not to downplay the women in your house i’m sure everyone has a weight on them

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Anonymous #16 5w

true but she definitely makes more, works all day, still cooks and cleans while he does nothing

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Anonymous #37 5w

It is

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Anonymous #12 5w

jamaica retaining this is resistance to colonial rule; yes, not every single people was patriarchal in ancient europe, but early nation-states violently assimilated and stripped their own people of any matrifocal culture like before the indo-european invasion, pre-germanic tribes were very matrifocal, much like traditions in native america (this includes taíno ancestors like yours + african traditions brought to the carribean that refused to be disrupted by the european colonial order) 🫶

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Anonymous #12 5w

i guess OP meant it in a way that as europe colonized half of the globe, existing patriarchy aggressively expanded and got worse so it does apply to a lot of ppl in that way. like in africa a lot of peoples had matrifocal traditions somewhat erased bc occupiers would encourage and incentivize local men to treat women like the colonizers treated their own women (doesn’t apply to everywhere, but they introduced these structures in places) most stark is native americans as far as ik

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Anonymous #5 5w

nobody asked ur monkey ass lol i must've hurt ur feelings

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Anonymous #25 5w

my response was referring to the fact u said they were insinuating something is a "rule" when the point was simply that it happens more often

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Anonymous #11 5w

real but pls don’t send #8 to my homelands for war. #8 would definitely commit war crimes in iraq and iran. massacre my people like every amerikan soldier i know what his kind did to iraqi 9 year old girls, and how they humiliated, 🍇, psychologically tortured, and executed our men in abu ghraib. looking at the way he treats women in his own country, he’d definitely kill and assault my ppl like the trrst he and his country is.

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Anonymous #34 5w

it's 2025 and we're gonna sit here and act like women don't go to work..? my grandpa is literally retired while my grandma works, and still cooks and cleans.

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Anonymous #39 5w

Why single out women? Why not men too?

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Anonymous #42 5w

women don't work in 2025?

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Anonymous #11 5w

yesterday lol…he built the fire pit we cooked most of the meat in 😂

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Anonymous #47 5w

why bring gender into it at all, rather appreciate those who support you? after all everything is conceptual, right?

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Anonymous #39 5w

Word salad

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Anonymous #44 5w

and before that what did he build lol? did the women cook tho? every day? for weeks? for months? every year?

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Anonymous #11 5w

Building the house doesn’t just mean actual physically constructing it. It also includes working for the family’s money.

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Anonymous #49 5w

it's 2025 babes, women work too

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Anonymous #11 5w

That’s fine, but you don’t know if the women in #44’s family work. I’d argue that if they don’t work, then yes it’s their responsibility to do the cooking. If they do work, then the men should be helping with the holiday prep.

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Anonymous #49 5w

same way all the mad men in the comments don't know if the men in other people's families build or help cook yet here y'all are saying this general post is invalid bc of ur personal situation, in most families women work and still cook and clean

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Anonymous #11 5w

The men aren’t making the assumptions. You are. And nobody said the post was invalid, they’re saying that everyone contributes in their own way. Stop twisting words to fit your narrative.

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Anonymous #49 5w

saying "the men are bringing in the money" is making assumptions..???? y'all are mad af in these comments tryna refute it. nobody's twisting words u can read the comments rn..

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Anonymous #11 5w

Genuinely what are you talking about 😭 you’re the one asking when the last time the man built something in the house? I merely pointed out that contributing to a house does, in fact, include working.

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Anonymous #49 5w

i asked the question in response to the implication that the men are doing just as much labor when realistically most men do not build things often. yet women cook every day, multiple times a day🫤

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Anonymous #11 5w

Comparing construction to cooking is silly. In a traditional family structure, the men work and the women care for the home. There is an even output of effort being made on either side. When I’m home, I cook for my entire family several times per day, and believe me, it’s not that hard. I did half the prep for Thanksgiving myself and again, it was not that hard.

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Anonymous #49 5w

construction that does not happen. y'all are saying the men are building but only built 1 small item a teenage girl could build and they only do it once every few years yet the women have to still cook every single day. if there's an even output in ur household great. the point of the post is to appreciate and help women that don't already get it, if it don't apply let it fly

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Anonymous #11 5w

What is your argument? Im actually so confused by what you’re saying right now, what small item a teenage girl could build are we talking about?

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Anonymous #49 5w

u said comparing construction to cooking is silly. my point is, the "construction" most men do does not happen often and is also usually not very hard. so it could be compared to somebody standing in the kitchen for hours every single day.

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Anonymous #11 5w

before that he built the patio and the awning that covers it… and before that he built the shed in the back…and before that he built the fence surrounding the backyard…and before that he built a stand for the firewood that he goes and gets every year in the winter. just because you don’t have real men in your family doesn’t mean it’s the same for everyone😂

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Anonymous #11 5w

i’d argue that getting on a ladder handling 80 pound bags of concrete is harder than standing in a kitchen mixing things (which he also does) not sure what men y’all have as examples that don’t cook 💀💀

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Anonymous #44 5w

They don’t know what they’re talking about. They refer to old days of how “women are forced to cook” but during that same time period, men were literally building their own houses from ground up. And someone who has no idea how to build has the audacity to say that most men don’t build 😂😂😂 you’re talking to a brick wall #44

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Anonymous #11 5w

Ok? He already put in his 40 or whatever years of work and she hasn’t yet. I’m sure he fixes things around the house and still contributes in other ways equivalent to cooking and cleaning

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Anonymous #58 3w

This is wild asf

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Anonymous #2 3w

What’s the wild part? That guys don’t care, or that I believe that?

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Anonymous #58 3w

That you personally think that way and believe that a large number of other men do as well

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Anonymous #2 3w

How is that wild? A holiday for an event that I never experienced…. I get that some are meant to remember key events in the past, but it had nothing to do with me. And more importantly, I can go see family and friends anytime, I don’t need a holiday as an excuse to visit!

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Anonymous #58 3w

I mean did you not grow up celebrating the same holidays year after year? And did that not create a sense of ritual traditions that hold a special place in your heart?

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Anonymous #2 3w

No I grew up in a normal American household that celebrated normal American holidays. I have my cherished memories from them. But it wasn’t the HOLIDAY that generated them, it was the actions of family/friends. They just chose to do it on the holiday, but they could’ve done it anytime

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Anonymous #58 3w

I mean fair I guess? Just seems like an odd splitting hairs kinda thing. Like yeah you could’ve done the same wonderful Christmas traditions on the 2nd of august but you didn’t. You can separate the traditions and experiences from the holiday but what’s the point?

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Anonymous #2 3w

Well that’s exactly what I’m saying lol what’s the point! It’s just a day off. I could spend time with family/friends any day. It’s just that BECAUSE we’re all off, those are times that are easy to get together. But it’s not the holiday itself that matters (to me)

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Anonymous #58 3w

Ykw fair enough! Not my thinking obviously but I can see how the actual day isn’t so important to some people

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Anonymous #2 3w

Yeah that’s all I’m saying lol. Guys don’t care about the holiday because it’s not the holiday that makes it great, it’s how you spend the day off

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Anonymous #58 3w

Well I’m a guy and I care lol. I understand you feel differently but I don’t think the majority of men think about it the way you do

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Anonymous #58 3w

I think it honestly just depends on the person. I’m a girl but I see it the way #58 sees it but my brother is super into the holiday things

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Anonymous #27 3w

Well yeah, statistics say that there will always be outliers, but I think OP was speaking about the majority so I was just following in that context

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