My dad proposed to my mom in their apartment on a whim and they’ve been together for 30 years, so sometimes that works. But not listening to what you want and getting back to a game immediately after is a huge red flag

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Yeah no give it back and move on, to have those important conversations and for them not to be remembered is not okay. I understand forgetting, but if he really cared he would have written them down or something. My bf had a notes tab on his phone so he wouldn’t forget things, it’s not hard, it’s not caring on a level that is beneficial to you.

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He didn’t forget. He chose not to listen and this can’t be the first time it’s happened. You’re letting him do it and if you don’t mind that’s fine but if you do, then decide what’s more important: having him or living with a guy who doesn’t listen to what you say.

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Listen I’m a forgetful person. But frankly, a proposal is important. And even if you remember it was something but not what it is… try. Make an effort. Either he gives a good honest emotionally vulnerable reason or you fuck off out of his life. Is my take lol.

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That’s so weird to just go back to ur game after a moment like that….are you with the right person?? Lmao

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So actually leave him because all it costs to make that a truly special moment is time and effort. Even if he couldn’t accomplish what you wanted (don’t have enough context on that to know how able he is to do it) he could’ve AT LEAST spent time with you, taken you on a walk, worn clothes. Basically anything else. And ALSO a year and a half is plenty of time and warning to save up for and plan for what you wanted. There’s no scenario in this where he’s in the right.

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