Anonymous #2 13w

i wouldn’t even bother trying to communicate if i were you OP, just leave 😭

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Anonymous #5 13w

He's fucking funny 😭 You need to stop seeing him tho, he don't know how to act

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Anonymous OP 13w

Stop if you’ve alr talked to him abt it and he just brushes it off when you’re clearly upset by it he’s projecting and being a bitch to you on purpose, that’s totally not overreacting especially if it’s actually making you feel bad abt yourself. Tell that mf to cut it out or you’re done, and when he does it again throw him away

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Anonymous #9 13w

But yeah no, not overreacting

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Anonymous OP 13w

Yeah… that’s gaslighting. You’ve communicated how you felt and he dismissed it. Cutting ties because someone refuses to respect you is not overreacting; it’s knowing your worth. He knows what he’s doing, and he isn’t sorry. Wishing you the best as you navigate this transition.✨

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Anonymous #13 13w

It’s not gaslighting, it’s negging

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Anonymous #4 13w

“It’s just a joke” or “it was a joke” are examples of gaslighting. Negging is the use of insults (typically backhanded compliments) with the belief that reduced self confidence will make the target more receptive to sexual advances and seek approval. “You’d be pretty if you tried wearing more makeup” is an example of negging. The goal of gaslighting is to distort the victim’s reality.

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Anonymous #13 13w

I mean you’re correct about the distorting part but gaslighting is a long term form of abuse where the perpetrator psychologically manipulates the victim into doubting their own sanity or perception of reality. It’s not brushing something off or minimizing an issue, or simply lying. Much more serious

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Anonymous #10 13w

Gaslighting can happen long term; however, once it becomes a pattern, it is already considered gaslighting. Telling someone “it’s just a joke” long term can cause effects like lowered self esteem and self-doubt, which is when you may begin questioning your own judgement (your reality). Gaslighting IS a dismissive behavior, so brushing the target’s feelings off long term becomes more serious.

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Anonymous #9 13w

I haven’t watched Smosh since middle school but this comment made me pull up what you were talking about and the reaction from the cast as well as everyone here has comforted me a lot and made me feel comfortable enough to start leaving (it’s going to take a bit since we live together) but yeah absolutely INSANE that this has happened to another woman 😭

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Anonymous OP 13w

It probably means nothing coming from a stranger on the internet but I’m really proud of you. No matter what pace you go at, progress is progress and you’re doing it!

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