AITA on Yik Yak | My bf dropped an album and music video about his ex a week before asking me to be his gf. I asked if he could take down at least the specific songs bc it makes me uncomfortable, but he said no bc it’s his "art". Idk if I’m overthinking or boundary setting

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AITA 10w

My bf dropped an album and music video about his ex a week before asking me to be his gf. I asked if he could take down at least the specific songs bc it makes me uncomfortable, but he said no bc it’s his "art". Idk if I’m overthinking or boundary setting

Anonymous 10w

if he is creating any art related to an ex (especially right before asking you to be his gf..) he isn’t in the right headspace to be in a relationship rn. run while you can, it will not get better from here!

Anonymous 10w

Making a whole album and music video does take time. So I can see if he’s completely over it and the timing was just weird. But also I would be a little irked about it myself. I think it depends on if he continues to make songs about the ex or if he mentioned the ex continuously

Anonymous 10w

my ex did this and then cheated on me with her. leave him!!!!!

Anonymous 10w

A person will almost always choose their career over a brand new relationship (which isn’t irrational; relationships are risks). Especially a wannabe musician (long enough odds without handicapping yourself). If you’re not comfortable with the nature of someone’s work, you’re not obligated to date them. But don’t put him in a position to choose between you and his success bc if he never succeeds, he’ll blame you and resent you even if he tries hard not to

Anonymous 10w

Looking for one positive (although this whole situation does seem sus) maybe think of it as his way of healing?

Anonymous 10w

Yeahhh girl he wrote those before you. He shouldn’t take them down because he’s in a relationship with you. Taylor Swift sings songs about her exes while being in a relationship. It’s not him missing her, he chose you, but he’s obviously doing what he loves and I think you made it about yourself.

Anonymous

#3 10w

he works with her too😭

Anonymous

#3 10w

explain pls

Anonymous

OP 10w

he’s a soundcloud rapper and pretty much every song is about his ex gf. when i was with him, this bothered me a little bit not enough to bring it up. and then he kept writing verses about her in his raps… and then i caught him texting her multiple times and found out they were sleeping together while i was still with him lolll

Anonymous

#4 10w

is 7 months still brand new

Anonymous

OP 10w

It’s been 7 months?? So the album came out about 7+ months ago as well? Is he still continuing to bring her up? Because if not 7 months is a long time to be sitting on a music video about someone he’s clearly over if it’s still with you

Anonymous

#2 10w

*He’s still with you. Which is good. But just wondering why it’s still bothering you after all this time

Anonymous

OP 10w

No but a week certainly is. Negative one week is even newer. And you have to think about it the way he probably does; his career as a necessity so he can afford stuff he needs (and possibly a relationship; though that’s your call. Would you leave him if he was broke?). Does he actually make a profit with his music? Have you thought realistically about what things would look like from a practical/financial perspective if he doesn’t? What replaces it? Do you become the breadwinner, or what? Are y

Anonymous

#4 10w

ou willing and able, such that his career really isn’t actually important? And is your relationship permanent/stable enough that he should trust rely on that as his safety net? And would you even want him to? Even if he’d choose you, that’s a lot of responsibility. Don’t just think about whether you can win: think about what you’re winning and what it costs

Anonymous

#5 10w

Although seeing as how he still works with her and you and him went into a relationship only a week after he dropped the music, I’d question the timing + how well you’ve known him tbh

Anonymous

#6 10w

no he didnt😭😭 i had limited words, but the girl broke up with him one month, i met him the FOLLOWING month, and then 2 months after we met he put the album out, and then the week after the album came out he asked me out💔 i feel so DUMBB like omg

Anonymous

OP 10w

It’s something big that’ll make good music. Again people make songs all the time while in relationships to connect with their audiences. You’re being narcissistic in my opinion

Anonymous

#6 10w

He asked you out AFTER the album. Not during.

Anonymous

#6 10w

and taylor swifts men know what they're getting into, he randomly put it out while we were dating, and didn't even say anything about it, i just found out from his ig story

Anonymous

#6 10w

its so crazy seeing people's opinion on this situation, im getting called narcissistic bc i dont like that my bf put an album out ab his ex while we were dating 😭 first time to hear everything

Anonymous

#6 10w

im trying to think of any key details i missed to make u think that way

Anonymous

OP 10w

Well you put it out onto the internet so expect it obviously. Also after putting it out, insisting you’re right when others disagree Isss narcissistic

Anonymous

#6 10w

And I’m assuming you knew he was a singer/songwriter….so like Taylor Swift you also knew what you were getting into

Anonymous

#6 10w

yea i think were getting confused with each other😭 thank you so much for your opinion i take all in account have a great night!

Anonymous

OP 10w

Fair enough. You too! Either way I do hope y’all work it out.

Anonymous

#6 10w

assuming each other's thoughts isnt helping with this but i appreciate u so much!!

Anonymous

#6 10w

thank you sm😭 ima keep trying bc its something different every week but we both have things to work on

Anonymous

OP 10w

And that’s part of the journey! But of course you should bring up your concerns to him because you should feel secure in your relationship

Anonymous

#6 10w

its literally sooo hard, when i say something that he does that makes me uncomfortable he turns me to blame or its just another thing the next week like im fighting for my life, and then im not even making it better bc i tend to stop talking but in response to how he makes me feel so were both trapped in this delulu cycle

Anonymous

OP 10w

Is it grounds to break up? Also sorry for coming on strong 😂 I played the devil’s advocate too harshly

Anonymous

#6 10w

no its okay!! lol all you know is what those few words said😭 i think it is grounds to break up, i have broken up with him MULTIPLEE times and then we end up getting back with each other but i dont even think i was to stay, he doesnt act like a bf and my habit is ignoring him or holding on to grudges when i get upset so were not a good combo

Anonymous

OP 10w

Girl whattttt. Multiple times? Babes I say you can do better and let his next album be about you. Period.

Anonymous

#6 10w

LMAOOO what im sayingg😭 the first THREE shouldve been a sign

Anonymous

OP 10w

Yeah girl that’s going against your better judgment

Anonymous

#6 10w

wish me luck and peace

Anonymous

OP 10w

You got it girl 🤞🏻