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AITA for being annoyed my friend cancelled plans with me to hang out with her SO?
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Anonymous 1w

NTA that is shitty friend behavior.

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Anonymous 1w

NTA none of my friends have ever bailed on me to spend time with their SO. Comments are the ones bailing and justifying it I guess

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Anonymous 1w

You can be annoyed but you should imagine them as a bonded pair. Their relationship is closer than just friendship, so the s/o will take priority and if she ditched you it must’ve been important. If it becomes a habit I’d talk to her. She could learn to schedule better in that case

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Anonymous 1w

Kinda.. romantic relationships are building something. At this age, she could be building the foundation of a long term relationship. That’s her building her future. You don’t get to be annoyed for her wanting to spend time on her future rather than with you

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

They’re going to six flags, she bought the tickets and then texted me that she’s doing that instead

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I think I would have been less annoyed if she talked to me about it first since we already had plans and I’m not free any other day due to the holiday

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

I’m not annoyed that she’s spending time with her SO. I’m annoyed we made plans and she decided to bail on me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Well that was shitty of her, I think he probably told her to cancel on you and she was apprehensive to deny him. Maybe he paid for the tickets. Idk. You should tell her that if she can’t keep plans with you, they shouldn’t be made. Tell her that you don’t want to feel ditched again and encourage her to just try to be more proactive about her scheduling if that’s the issue. Benefit of the doubt this time, but don’t tolerate it if she can’t have a boyfriend and a best friend.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

This could be your opportunity to branch out and expand your own circle as she has

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