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AITA 13w
Her friend has invited her to a motorcycle club a few times now, which she’s always out till 2 am, and idk if I’m comfortable with it bc I have never heard a single good thing about them, but idk how to say it without seeming like an asshole
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Anonymous 12w

Why not just ask her to update you if she needs anything while she's out? I mean I'm assuming she's an adult and can decide whether she should hang out with someone or not. I could understand the concern about their safety while being till 2 am, but otherwise, it just sounds a bit weird?

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Anonymous 12w

i might get downvoted too but i don’t think you’re making it about yourself like that other post said. i think it’s fair to be concerned about that since yall are a partnership, or supposed to be one. don’t do shit your partner isn’t comfortable with, that’s the bottom line. set boundaries that yall both agree too and if they are broken, then a serious sit down is needed.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12w

Yeah I’ve said that but it typically feels like radio silence. She’s put herself in situations before where not so good things have happened, so I feel like ofc I’m gonna be concerned, as motorcycle clubs don’t have the best reputation. aka hard drugs, a lot of drinking, fights and stuff like that, not even mentioning the other activities they’re also known for.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12w

Also thank you for giving me some actual advice

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 12w

I appreciate it, I really am just concerned but this community is seeing it as something more than that somehow, I just wanted some advice and well… you saw the response I got😕

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12w

yeah, i’m glad you’re not letting it get to you. the internet seems to think they know more based off one paragraph than the actual person with a girlfriend. you know you and her the best.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 12w

Yeah it seems I shouldn’t have gotten advice from the internet and should only ask real people from now on😭, I didn’t make that post to argue with anyone or like begging for sympathy post, I kinda just wanted to talk to someone about it and get others opinions, but everyone assumed so quick, I love my gf but I worry and I think it would say more if I wasn’t worried you know?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12w

i understand what you mean. people love to hide behind anonymity. if you would like, my dm’s are open to talk about this situation. i am in a serious relationship and a woman, so maybe my perspective would be helpful but who knows?

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