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AITA 16w
Is my dad the asshole? His cousin died (they were super, super close) & my dad called his ex-wife instead of his current wife to talk to her about it. When his wife asked him why, he said it was bc he was really sad about it & wanted to talk to someone...
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Anonymous 16w

who knew the cousin from back in the day or whatever. + It just felt more useful/helpful to him in the moment. His wife is upset over it and I told her idk I get both sides but keep me out of this one 😅

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Anonymous 15w

Asshole is not the best wordddd but tbh he should’ve told his current wife that he’d contact his ex wife beforehand 🤷

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Anonymous 15w

Ngl I think it was okay. Grief is weird, and I think wanting to be vulnerable with someone who knew the person is okay. He didn’t meet up, fool around, or flirt with her. He just needed to talk to someone who could relate more to how he was feeling

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Anonymous 15w

Yikes. That’s a rough one. 😅 but i have to side with your mom. I wouldn’t like my partner reaching out to her ex for solace. Good call on staying out of it tho 😂

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15w

His cousin’s ex. Not his own ex. Reaching out to his own ex first would be absolutely wild.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 15w

No, that's what I meant. Sorry for writing it confusingly. Lots of moving parts in this story. My dad called his own ex-wife about it

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 15w

This was my perspective personally. They did meet up but generally they do meet up sometimes (like for ex. my dad went to her dad's funeral last year & went to her house warming party in March). But this situation feels more similar to meeting up for a funeral than being disrespectful of his current relationship. But idk

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 15w

Yeah, I feel like this would have helped! I think she is mainly upset that he sought out someone else when he felt sad instead of her and I totally get how that can be hurtful

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

Oh my b. Yeah in that case he kinda is ta.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

I would by very hurt if my own spouse reached out to an ex for any sort of emotional support before me

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