Anonymous #1 4w

Consensual non consensual

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Anonymous #2 4w

That’s what I’m saying; what I’m more so asking is am I the asshole with me being upset with him telling my best friend

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Anonymous OP 4w

Is he also good friends with this person? Bc talking things out with another person is helpful for understanding our own thought processes and rationalizations. And if he’s also friends with your friend it can make sense.

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Anonymous #2 4w

My best friend absolutely despised him before the convo and then after they were all buddy buddy

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Anonymous OP 4w

I have a feeling your bestie and him have been lying to you fam

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Anonymous #2 4w

In which way 😭 there’s like two I can come up with and neither are good

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Anonymous #5 4w

I brought up the idea of us doing a scene and he flipped out on me; then went to someone who wasn’t even involved 😭 I genuinely don’t know weather I should feel gross about having said kink or like break down and cry because I didn’t mean to upset him

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Anonymous OP 4w

You can’t choose how others react, only how you respond (and he responded pretty poorly ngl). You didn’t cause him to flip out, whatever preconceived notion he has is his business. CNC is a harmless kink in the grand scheme of things. TLDR, your kink is normal, your kink didn’t force him to go talk to someone else, and you might want to have a chat with him about why he did that

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Anonymous #5 4w

Oh I plan on saying peace to both of them bwcause it’s not okay that I feel dirty and shamed by something I just wanted to express.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Glad you feel a bit better. Hope you find someone that respects your kink in the future!!

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Anonymous #1 3w

Consensual non-consent. It’s like roleplaying r4pe but with consent

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Anonymous OP 3w

if he reacted to u poorly and went to her first abt it… it says he finds comfort in her more than him. her outward “despise” is her overcompensating to make it seem unlikely. it’s wrong and it’s sad but it kinda sounds like that’s what they have goin on. ik it’s not related to the initial post but since no one explained it to u i thought id help from an outside perspective <3

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Anonymous #11 3w

I know he didn’t have to tell me the opinion. I was actually happy he told me his opinion because then I know to avoid the topic. But he went to someone who didn’t have anything to do with the convo or our sec life.

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Anonymous OP 3w

That sounds very sketchy.

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Anonymous #9 3w

It sounds like the best friend and the boyfriend might be sleeping together (and I’m so very sorry OP if they are) because overcompensating by “despising” and then him going to her with that kind of thing? Being buddy buddy? I’d have a serious talk and then probably leave. But that’s just me.

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Anonymous OP 3w

I’m not a SA victim but I get the kink and it’s a fairly normal kink don’t let anyone shame you for it he’s wrong for airing it out

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Anonymous OP 3w

Maybe consider breaking up with him - you’re fine for having your kink, but he shouldn’t have involved outside parties like that. Him getting upset is on him, not on you.

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