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AITA 3d
IKITA, but my mom keeps guilt tripping me over dying and I’m tired of it. She always goes on about “maybe you’d care if I died”, or “maybe I’ll just die one day, you never know.” It just pisses me off.
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Anonymous 3d

She’s abusing you actually

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Anonymous 3d

#2 Is correct, my Mom always said stuff exactly like this to me & it wasn’t until I got some distance from her that I realised how poisonous she was. There’s a lot more to it but I see her maybe every 3 months and even that takes its toll on me emotionally even if she’s nice that day.

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Anonymous 3d

No she’s the asshole that’s emotional abuse my dad also does that it’s really shitty that she’s guilt tripping you like that and I’m sorry you’re dealing with that

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Anonymous 2d

No you’re not . This is manipulation. It’s not the way to form a healthy relationship. Mostly guilt tripping

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Anonymous 16h

That’s emotional abuse

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3d

Could you explain?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

its emotional abuse. the “if i died you would care” is a manipulation tactic.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3d

Oh….

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

and, though it’s hard to tell just from what you said, the likelihood that your mom is a narcissist is, unfortunately, pretty high

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3d

Well, I don’t know if this would change anything, but she always acts like the world is against her for some reason. Like, she was complaining about her boyfriend not caring because he decided to babysit his granddaughter on Easter, but also talked about how she didn’t have sex with him for a long time.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

yeah, i would say that’s very narcissist-coded. typically, narcissists are stuck in a mindset where they’re only ever the hero or the victim.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

Yes the emotional blackmail is a classic sign of narcissistic abuse. They say these things to dodge any responsibility for them making you feel bad.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

Yeah, I understand that. But she tells me she does it as a joke, because she knows it gets under my skin. Sometimes, she’s not serious about it, other times she says it when she’s mad.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

That is gaslighting. Clearly she means it if she says the same thing when angry.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

Abusers aren’t always aware they’re being abusive. She may intend it as a joke that doesn’t mean it’s not guilt tripping

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2d

I work in the psych field, and emotional manipulation from parents is difficult. I’m sorry you have to go through this

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