completely different situation, he isnt saying she cant be friends with the dude, just not sleep in the bed with him

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Anonymous #8 2d

That’s the freaking point. just saying something is a “boundary” doesn’t make it reasonable. Getting upset over sleeping in bed with your gay best friend is ridiculous. I would instantly break up with a man who tried to police me like this

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You don’t have to agree with your partners boundaries but you have to respect them otherwise don’t be in a relationship with them

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Anonymous #7 2d

I’m sure you’d also instantly break up with a guy who slept in bed with his lesbian best friend

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Anonymous #7 2d

Hence why u single u dumb donut

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Anonymous #4 2d

exactly what i was thinking and clearly what #7 never considered. must be the gf😂 i would never sleep in a bed with another man

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Imma be real dude if i monogamously dated somebody and they DIDNT ask if i was chill w them cuddling someone, something seen as romantic especially in this culture, i’d feel a little hurt. Which is funny because i’d be totally chill w it!! If they *specifically* asked if it was okay to cuddle someone. The kind of thing BOTH sides need to communicate before it becomes an issue.

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Ratio

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Ratio again bozo

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Anonymous #7 2d

RATIOOO

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Anonymous #1 2d

nope, but nice assumption with no real argument

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Anonymous #9 2d

lmao is that supposed to be an insult? this post is reason #638294 why men aren’t worth it

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Anonymous #16 2d

you should never have to voice to your partner that you don’t want them sleeping with the opposite gender…common sense ain’t common

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Anonymous #13 2d

Every relationship is different

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Anonymous #16 2d

if my bf told me he sometimes sleeps with his lesbian gf i’d consider that a red flag. the same way this is a red flag. yall are weird

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Anonymous #7 1d

Something tells me you’ve never been in a happy and loving relationship

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Anonymous #13 1d

Right people are too concerned with being the cool girlfriend/boyfriend that lets their partner do anything.

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Anonymous _coyote_ugly_ 1d

Every single one of my close friends is the opposite gender as me and although we haven’t slept in the same bed they have stayed at my place and my partner and I had an honest conversation before hand knew the guys and most importantly trusted me. I understand everyone’s boundaries are different but you can expect people to read your mind you have to have the hard conversations

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Anonymous #16 1d

Very true

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Anonymous #6 1d

not being okay with your partner sleeping in bed with the opposite sex regardless of sexual orientation should not be a boundary that has to be set. it’s actually just basic respect to not be cuddling with the opposite sex when you’re in a relationship

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Anonymous #17 1d

i don’t know them or their relationship. different people are okay with different things. i also don’t see anything about them cuddling in the original post (i could be wrong as i haven’t read the comments). for all we know there could’ve been a wall of pillows between them. the og poster asked if they were an asshole, not if their partner was. i see where you’re coming from but simply and respectfully disagree.

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Anonymous #16 1d

staying at your place and sleeping in the same bed is two different things though…

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Anonymous #16 1d

I agree and that’s great for your relationship it’s a good example of good communication and trusting one another but when and where did I say word for word that “I expect couples to read each other’s mind.” I am aware that communication is a key component to a healthy relationship. So idk if your agreeing and just adding to what I said or trying to inform me that “I can’t expect couples to read each others mind.”

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Anonymous #6 1d

I agree. You can’t respect someone’s boundary if you don’t know it exists. It ticked OP off, they’re setting the boundary now, and if it’s disrespected in the future then you know the gf never cared. But it won’t do any good to hold it against her forever; if you actually want to continue the relationship there has to be a resolution. The resolution here is being upset temporarily, setting the boundary, getting over it, and continuing as normal.

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Anonymous #6 1d

And if you can’t get over it and accept that as being the resolution then it’s probably best to end the relationship now. My fiancé has upset me and I him, but we discuss and then make changes to our own behavior for the other person because we want this relationship and are willing to find a mutual solution and move on

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