Anxiety on Yik Yak | My wife has anxiety, I am just honestly so, so, tired of it. I know it’s real but Jesus Wept I can just barely contain my frustration. 100% of my frustration is her unwillingness to go back to Psychiatrist, Psychologist or Therapist of any kind.

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Anxiety 1w

My wife has anxiety, I am just honestly so, so, tired of it. I know it’s real but Jesus Wept I can just barely contain my frustration. 100% of my frustration is her unwillingness to go back to Psychiatrist, Psychologist or Therapist of any kind.

Anonymous 6d

Op just sit her down and tell her she needs to start getting help and/or if she doesn’t you’ll leave (give her real reasons obviously why it’s hard on you too). But not divorcing her and staying with her “just because” (with out doing anything) will only make you resent her more

Anonymous 1w

The hardest part of getting help I would say is actually finding those people that can help you (psych and therapy) I would honestly offer to help her find someone if you have the time. Psychologytoday has a lot of options and is area based so you can find someone near you. I would also just be there for her it’s really hard to start getting help and at least for me it made me feel weak to need help. I would just take it slow and try to be as supportive as possible.

Anonymous 1w

Sorry long post. Really just venting about this. I truly understand it however one parties tolerance can’t last forever if the other party refuses to seek help!!!

Anonymous 1w

Im approaching the end of my ability to care. The anxiety is causing and activating all of the other mental problems. The eating disorder has returned. The hysteria and the meltdowns. She freaked out my Dogs scared them all terribly and then had what can only be described as well a I don’t really have the appropriate vocabulary and of course this a woman I love. I must say though I am one more hysterical histrionic outburst over the kitchen from simply ignoring forever.

Anonymous 1w

I love her I just think it’s time for actual tough love. Or a mental ward. I remember my uncle sent his wife off to a Sedona to paint.

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OP 1w

Is she actually your wife or just a gf? Cause you made vows saying “in sickness and in health” this is mental illness. She is sick. I’d say if you can’t be there for her to leave because you’re a bad husband.

Anonymous

#1 1w

Yes she is my wife. I won’t leave her. I will just move her and all of her stuff to a decent condominium and not speak to her anymore. Option 2 is a much much larger home and not speak to her anymore.

Anonymous

#1 1w

If she’s going to scare the dogs is separate housing and she’s out. Dog needs trump her needs and she knew that way before she said I DO.

Anonymous

OP 1w

I get that the dogs trump her. I’m guessing there have been lots of convos about this between yall but if not I would be like “look here’s the deal. Fix your shit or you’re out” I would much rather be divorced than have to deal with my “husband” never talking to me again because of my anxiety

Anonymous

#1 1w

Please understand. I have done that for 10 years. We aren’t on an island. I have identified a lot of medical professionals. I have been supportive I stopped teasing her about it I stopped doing the “Hysti” dance which was the fun dance I did when she a meltdown. I have been supportive and helped and even attended sessions where I politely listened to therapists blame me for everything and then paid them!!! I have spent easily $100,000 helping. I think honestly I have reached a breaking point.

Anonymous

#1 1w

I love you as a human for getting it about the Dogs. Yes thousands of conversations. Divorce I think we could have done that in our thirties maybe, you see I’m a Dinosaur. Divorce would be very cruel she’d be totally alone and that’s just wrong. Option 2 at the very least when her agoraphobia kicks in she can see which car I’m taking to play Golf and if I’m alone!!