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is it true that if a guy likes a girl enough he’ll talk to her? i keep hearing that if a guy doesnt approach me its because hes not interested in me enough but i want to believe people arent that simple. i just dont have any guys in my life to ask tho
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Anonymous 8w

Guys aren’t a hive mind. Everyone has different experiences and might be different amounts motivated vs burned out. Him not approaching you tells you nothing. Talk to him, then you’ll know

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Anonymous 8w

I never talk to girls I like. There you go

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Anonymous 8w

No, it probably just means he doesn’t think you’re interested if he doesn’t approach you.

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Anonymous 8w

Hes nervous/ doesn’t know how to properly approach women

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Anonymous 8w

It’s true but u gotta remember that not all guys that like u will want to approach u. Like all that approach u like u but there are plenty more introverted guys or maybe they just weren’t feeling up to it. It’s like a squares and rectangles situation. All squares (guys that approach u) r rectangles (like u) but not all rectangles are squares

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Anonymous 8w

It is true up to an extent, it depends on the environment and situation. If I see someone at a coffee shop that I like sitting alone, I probably won’t. But if they’re in line and I’m next to order behind them, yeah I’ll probably strike up a conversation. I’m sorry if that was general but if you’re willing and comfortable, I can help you if you have a specific situation

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Anonymous 8w

Of course it's true, but if he hasn't met you before then I guarantee he doesn't like you enough to hit that threshold because he has no idea who you are. If a guy doesn't approach it's because he's not comfortable approaching strangers knowing he's probably unwelcome, it's rarely about you.

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Anonymous 8w

Myself and other guys I know actually avoid women we’re interested in

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Anonymous replying to -> bouldrr 8w

there was a guy i’d see on campus all the time and we had classes together too. i’d always catch him staring at me but he never said anything. in class i was usually sitting with friends but outside of class i was probably alone. i experience guys staring at me without saying anything a lot but this is the one i actually liked

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

are you smiling/waving at him whenever you catch him looking at you? if not then he probably thinks that you think he’s weird

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Anonymous replying to -> bouldrr 8w

well no…i would get nervous so i’d just look away

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

might be a good start to do that

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Anonymous replying to -> bouldrr 8w

lol he ended up getting a girlfriend actually. which is what makes me think he wasn’t actually interested in me. maybe it wasn’t that he couldn’t talk to girls he likes he just didn’t talk to me. sometimes looking is just looking i guess

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

well if that’s the case then he just couldn’t lower the gaze

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

Tbh it sounds to me like he probably did like you, but he misinterpreted your nervousness in looking away as disinterest or discomfort, so he probably became boyfriends with a woman who smiled/waved at him when she caught him looking like #2 said, or who otherwise came across as more interested or approachable.

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