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Is it weird to tell this guy I just started talking to that I struggle with anxiety
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Anonymous 1w

Imma be real, as someone struggles heavily with anxiety, it may. But if that’s the case… they aren’t a good match for you long term I would think

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Anonymous 6d

I would love to hear that kind of sincerity. It takes courage to admit struggles with something like that and I think it makes sense as something to mention upfront so he doesn't misinterpret your communication and behavior. If it's a significant thing for you and not just immediately broadcasting insecurities i guess.

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Anonymous 1w

Maybe I’m lost on the way you mean “anxiety” but me personally as a man I wouldn’t be weirded out if you brought it up. I would try to understand the situation and give to what you need. But obviously there is a lot of variation between men so that could just be me. (If I’m missing the point let me know)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Someday I won’t want to talk then other day I will want to talk a lot . I don’t want him to think I’m flaking off

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Well if you communicate what you struggle with and he doesn’t support you, would it matter anyways?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

If you doesn’t support then I can block and move on

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I mean I guess! Like if you want a long term partner and they won’t support you I think it’s not a good match yk?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

I’m talking about being vulnerable and if he does support won’t that be beneficial

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Yes! It would be super beneficial

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

So I’m asking how do bring up this conversation

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Ohhhh. Maybe be like “hey I know I am hot and cold sometimes. I struggle with [insert like GAD or SAD or whatever u need] and am working on it but it still affects me in certain ways [list here]. Then like either he ask questions or you say what you think is best to support you (space, reassurance, distraction, ect)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

I will try to hold off the conversation till I see him in person . Thank you cause I was contemplating telling him to find someone normal so he doesn’t have to deal with this

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Ofc!! You are super strong fr. And know no matter the outcome you are worthy of love!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

It’s funny cause struggling with anxiety the last thing I deserve was love and happiness. I can get help and say I won’t date till I’m “ fix” but everyday is a journey to overcoming it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I am the same way. It’s gonna be a lifelong battle of managing! But that doesn’t mean you are not worthy of love!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

I was sleep deprived and crying so I don’t even remember why I made the post

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 6d

He communication style definitely triggered me. So im going to talk to him to see how we can fix that before it turn into animosity

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