Before a first date is insane work

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im a girl, and id def be uncomfortable if a guy asked that before the first date. tbh i feel like that can all come up by the time you start making out n stuff. but i guess if you’re looking for a “wait until marriage” situation then maybe it would be different idk

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Women here: You can ask what she is looking for in a relationship before the first date. If she wants it to be long term or short term or whatever. Asking about virginity has stopped me from going on dates with men before.

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thats not a first date kinda question

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So as a girl who is a virgin and waiting until marriage, I would not be okay with a guy asking me this. Especially before a first date. I understand your preference, but this would put a bad taste in my mouth. I wouldn’t like if a guy determined if he wanted to date me based on my sexual past. Get to know her first, ask reasonable questions. Then, if the topic comes up, then you can ask. Also, I wouldn’t ever confess that I’m a virgin on a first date let alone before a date.

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Remove a yes. My eyes glossed over “first date”

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No on the asking before a first date in general. You also shouldn’t ask if a girl is a virgin or not, because, let’s be honest, you’re looking for one answer and if it’s the other you’re gonna be put off. If that’s such a big deal for you, then you probably aren’t ready for a relationship. Discussing intimacy details and preferences is good, doing it before anything happens between you two helps get over some awkwardness, but it shouldn’t be discussed until you’re well into the relationship.

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I’m a girl, I honestly would like the straight forward approach. Most women would probably appreciate the straight forward conversation BUT after a few dates or after officially starting dating.

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before the first date is too soon. bring it up after 2 or 3 dates at least

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