Anonymous #1 2w

this isn’t a difference of definition. yearning simply does not mean “I’m horny and want to fuck her any chance I get.” men just can’t see women as anything more than something to have sex with, proven by your statement.

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Anonymous #2 2w

And true romance, not just the first person I feel there is a chance with

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Anonymous OP 2w

downvoting me isn’t changing my mind. I literally have had many after man on this app in my DMs telling me he’s a yearner and then isn’t interested in anything beyond sex. if that’s not how you want men to be viewed then don’t make a comment saying yearning = only wanting to fuck women

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Anonymous OP 2w

Relax. You’re jumping the gun. Yes, guys desire someone they like (naturally and biologically btw) but that does not mean he won’t also court her with romance in the process

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Anonymous OP 2w

There is multiple comments so maybe generalizations don’t work when obviously guys are all different :)

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Anonymous #1 2w

do women not also naturally and biologically desire people they like. also you’re not understanding my post. I literally said men see the word yearning to mean “I want to fuck her” and you agreed. so idk what we’re arguing about here

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Anonymous #2 2w

there was him saying yearning = I want sex and that’s IT when I responded. the “multiple comments” was him and you. I never said all guys weren’t different. I was clearly responding to only him and saying he’s proving my point of the post.

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Anonymous OP 2w

I mean you seem to just want to have your point proven and don’t have a desire to have nuance lol, gl

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Anonymous #2 2w

I wanted men to NOT prove my point. but the first response (and only response at the time that I responded) was a man proving my point.

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Anonymous OP 2w

By asking leading questions? Many such cases!

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Anonymous #2 2w

also, don’t speak for me. just bc YOU might yearn properly doesn’t mean most men don’t. which one of us is interacting with men romantically and hearing this over and over?

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Anonymous OP 2w

I mean I could say women don’t want it either cause I interact with women and they all want casual 🤷‍♂️

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Anonymous #2 2w

I said DO men know. meaning they can say “yes I know that, I yearn romantically” or “no lol dudes just see yearning as fucking”

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Anonymous #2 2w

But I don’t cause it’s a stupid generalization

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Anonymous OP 2w

Yes but not to the same level. You need to understand what testosterone does to us, which you won’t, the same way we’ll never truly understand giving birth. Your anecdotal experience doesn’t portray us as a whole. And yes it’s true but it also means more than that

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Anonymous #1 2w

This is just so dumb bro anyone who generalizes like u is a dumbass 😂

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Anonymous #1 2w

that’s not true I’m not even reading that whole thing. I quite literally studied hormones in the brain. it’s sociology letting men act this way and pushing purity culture for women, not hormones.

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Anonymous OP 2w

Right so you should understand fundamental differences between us. We literally have different life experiences. Anything blank culture is so tarded as if it hasn’t been this way since the dawn of humanity

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Anonymous #1 2w

you JUST said it’s biology and now that I corrected you you’re changing your story 💀 yeah okay “tarded”

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Anonymous #1 2w

so when u say “on like a switch” and “volume knob” it seems like you’re referencing what is called spontaneous vs. responsive desire. however, those are not determined by biological sex. some men have responsive desire (volume knob, takes time to become aroused/want to have sex) and some women have spontaneous desire (light switch, spontaneously aroused/desiring sex)

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Anonymous #3 2w

Ur giving too much thought into a statement that he hasn’t thought deeply about at all

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Anonymous #2 2w

not really. i’m just correcting misinformation. didn’t have to think too hard about it

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Anonymous #3 2w

Never said u had to think hard, saying he didn’t think at all!

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Anonymous OP 2w

Yea but the men that “need to hear it” won’t listen to you anyways so like why put in the effort imo 🤷‍♂️call them a dumbass and move on

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Anonymous #2 2w

name calling just makes people combative. what if a man that’s on the fence sees their comment and learns the fact?

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Anonymous #2 2w

the thing is it was really no effort and that’s what i told you. took me 45 seconds to write while i was waiting for my laundry. you were the one arguing with him back and forth 😭😭

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Anonymous #10 2w

I don’t want sex, I gave up on romance years ago, and anyone who “likes” me can Sybau because nothing turns me off more than a woman

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