Anonymous OP 4d

he is not a "bad person" for wanting sex without romance. don't go and bitch at him because he has a personal preference that offends you. you can tell him how you feel, but he didn't do anything wrong by wanting to have sex

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Anonymous #1 4d

No, he wouldn’t be a bad person if he said that was all he wanted. We were talking seriously and having convos of relationships, when things started to change and I noticed it was more for sex I said something and he said it was not just for sex. Now it’s so clear it was just for sex which is why I’m upset bc he lied

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Anonymous #2 4d

I want him to realize he is a and person. We were talking seriously and then when things started to change and I thought he only wanted sex he lied and said that wasn’t the only thing he wanted. Yet that’s the only time he gives me attention when he wants sex. I’m upset and want him to realize he’s a bad person

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Anonymous OP 4d

then tell him that you feel hurt/misunderstood because it seems lately that your conversations were about sex when you were wanting a deeper connection

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Anonymous #1 4d

this seems so aggressive for what?? it’s a very valid feeling. talking to someone and building a connection just to want sex and nothing more is not a great feeling

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Anonymous #2 4d

do not go scorched earth on his ass, ik its tempting but more often than not this kind of stuff blows up in your face. if you dont think you can send a respectful yet clear message and keep it centered in your experience without accusing him directly, simply block him

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Anonymous OP 4d

no i get you girl. i felt like that with my bf of 2 years (now ex) save your time and move on

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Anonymous #2 4d

agreed. never let a man embarrass yourself

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Anonymous #2 4d

I can send a respectful message I just don’t know what to say that would make him realize I didn’t deserve that

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Anonymous #3 4d

It’s safe to say he already embarrassed me 😭🥲I guess that’s why I feel so hurt now

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Anonymous #3 4d

So don’t say anything at all? I feel stupid. I felt like I owed it to myself to say something but fighting with myself if it’s better to just let it go

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Anonymous OP 4d

do what you need to do baby. i can’t give you an answer but just weigh out your options. i understand wanting them to feel pain and hurt just like how you feel but sometimes silence and walking away is more powerful. tbh you might not get the closure you need but always remember that no man should make you feel like an idiot

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Anonymous OP 4d

you can straight up say “i feel hurt and unsupported, and would have liked you to tell me what you wanted upfront because i don’t think i deserved to be left in the dark”

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Anonymous #1 4d

Bro has absolutely no media literacy. Can’t read. Probably grew up illiterate. Unfortunately, people like that tend to be loud with wrong idiotic opinions. Yelling out loud to who? No one but their own ears. Listen up because no one’s else is

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Anonymous #4 4d

ah, the ad hominem logical fallacy. it's a classic! I did not grow up illiterate. I knew how to read before starting kindergarten, I've loved reading my entire life, I was at a college reading level in 4th grade. but if it makes your dick hard then go off

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Anonymous OP 4d

then I agree that it's bad. you never said anywhere on your original post that he lied, so I didn't know that was the case. telling him he's a bad person is still shitty, but simply telling him he did a bad thing and it hurt you is a much better approach

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Anonymous #7 3d

Well that’s why I got upset, because I’ve already been letting him have sex with me I guess hoping it would fix things. And he already got what he wanted out of me so idk if he’ll even care what I have to say. What exactly should I say if I say something about how it makes me feel?

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Anonymous OP 3d

Notice how you say “letting him have sex with me” that doesn’t sound like a very mutual decision :( you need to be straightforward, don’t sugarcoat anything for a grown ass man. Tell him you feel disrespected by the current situation and you value yourself too much to continue putting yourself under so much mental stress for something that you aren’t promised in the end. Be honest and say you feel like you’re being used, if he doesn’t apologize and take things slow until YOU want, DROP HIM!!!

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