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Ask Men 1w
Not too many votes but majority of us still want guys to approach (respectfully and can handle rejection well if need be).
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Anonymous 1w

You only want the men you find attractive to approach you. If 2 men are respectful but one is attractive and one is ugly, the ugly one won’t be seen as respectful. That’s been proven millions of times

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Anonymous 1w

But it just feels so fucking weird. Like I would never make a friend like that, so why the hell should this be this way. I'm not approaching because of personality, I'm approaching because of looks, which just feels shallow and slimy. You guys are even very vocal about how you want people to value your personality over your looks, so why do you try and make men approach pretty much solely off of looks? Isn't that counterintuitive??

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

You wouldn’t make a friend bc they looked cool or you were more interested in them? I’ve def done that before. Ofc we do, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t think I’m cute and get to know me in a respectful manner

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

No, I meet friends based off of events that start conversation. Also, that's still wildly counterintuitive, especially for people like me who are looking for a very specific personality in a partner

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Oh well we’re just different then. Counterinitiitve how? I mean I get the personality part but you need to find them cute lol

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

It just wildly goes against trying to promote valuing people's personality over their looks

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

But if I’m trying to date, I need to find them cute. It’s not controversial. I can find someone who’s cute and has the personality I want eventually

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

I don’t really care. If im not attracted to them and they approach me, I just reject them politely

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

The “you” in this context are the majority of conventionally attractive women, its not personal

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6d

Not really, lol this is something guys made up

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