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Ask Men 16h
Is there a way I can make my bf want to do small gestures for me without asking? I know this sounds so dumb but I can't remember the last time I got flowers or a little note or anything like that. I try to bake him things and stuff but he doesn't do thing
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Anonymous 12h

It may not be a way he naturally expresses affection through. You can tell him that those types of things make you feel appreciated

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Anonymous 14h

Use telekinesis to ingrain your desire into him

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Anonymous 7h

Just to clarify, it's not that I want flowers or a note itself etc. It's the act of him thinking of me throughout his day that's appealing to me. I couldnt care less about the material aspects of this it's the thought and consideration that I want

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Anonymous 14h

Start telling him about one of your friends boyfriends and all the things he does for her. be like “ it’s so sweet (friend)’s boyfriend is soo romantic, he always gets her flowers and surprises her, she’s so lucky I’m so happy for her”

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Anonymous 9h

I really agree with User 4! I get not wanting to ask, but I do think this is something good to talk about with him just so he's aware this is something you really enjoy. He'll probably want to do it once he's aware!

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Anonymous 16h

Looking at Your door, You look like the it-person who knows what to do w/ boyfriend(s), where looking at his door, he does not look like the it-person who knows what to do w/ girlfriend(s).

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Anonymous 16h

It is ‘dumb’ watching that You left your self in this occasion, and watching that You are ✍🏽 writing from this occassion

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Anonymous 16h

I would like to say “I told You so”, yet in this instance “You told Your self”.

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Anonymous 16h

OP told her self.

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Anonymous 16h

W/o asking . . . nope. You are not attractive enough OR bf is really like such

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9h

Jesus, these are messed up comments! What's wrong with you? If you have nothing nice to say or helpful to say, don't comment. You also need serious help because your comments are very misogynistic

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 9h

Liar.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 9h

Male crossdresser.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 9h

This post is about manipulation. Do keep back, person.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9h

The original poster's not a manipulator for wanting her partner to show her the same interest she's shown him. That's perfectly normal to want someone you love to show you love too! I think you should ask yourself why you see this as manipulation

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 9h

This OP is already doing her part BY HER OWN ACCORD by ‘try to bake him things and stuff.’ Do get a grip, #5. Do eat your bowl of Wrong-os for breakfast.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9h

You're exactly right that the original poster is doing things like baking so why shouldn't her partner try to show her the same interest and love? It's perfectly valid and reasonable for the original poster to want someone to show interest in return.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 8h

Yeah I think it's not his thing but idk what his thing is then 🤷

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 8h

Tbh I feel like that's passive aggressive and idk I want him to want to think of me in small ways not because I seem upset or jealous of others but I get what you're saying

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 8h

Yeah I've told him before like it would be nice to get a little note or something but it's not his thing so he doesn't do it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8h

well if you’re not willing to straight up tell him what you want in the relationship, anything you do will be passive

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8h

Genuinely no idea what ur even trying to say with all these comments. I'm not full of myself I promise but there's no way for me to say this other than I PROMISE it's not that im ugly lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8h

How is it manipulation? I'm not trying to force him into anything and it's not about material things it's more like I wish I got more small gestures of affection. I know he loves me but sometimes it's nice to get a note or flowers or something small or a date planned idk. I try to do those things for him to show I care and am thinking of him

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8h

Bahahahah what is going on rn this is wild

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8h

Dawg what does this even mean

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 8h

I mean that's fair. I totally think communication is important but also at the same time I think the point for me here is that I want him to WANT to do these things for me. I want him to want to show his affection and appreciation for me without being asked or badgered about it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7h

totally understandable for you to want that. unfortunately and i’m sorry if this is harsh, but he is actively showing you that that is not something he cares about doing.

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