Ask Men on Yik Yak | asked this in a different community but I think it was female biased so id like make opinion. AITA for for telling my bf (M19) I don't wanna send nudes incase we ever break up? He got really offended by the whole breakup part, but i mean it COULD happen

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asked this in a different community but I think it was female biased so id like make opinion. AITA for for telling my bf (M19) I don't wanna send nudes incase we ever break up? He got really offended by the whole breakup part, but i mean it COULD happen

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Anonymous 6w

No not the asshole

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Anonymous 6w

Reasonable of you, not the asshole

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Anonymous 6w

You’re not TA but it probably would have been better to just say you didn’t want to send nudes and leave it at that

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Anonymous 6w

No, for one thing, you absolutely don’t need an excuse to not be comfortable sending nudes. It’s something you’re allowed to just be inherently uncomfortable with. Secondly, you’re VERY much in the right. If he thinks a breakup is truly unthinkable to the point where there’s no reason to be careful about a potential future where you aren’t together; ask him why he hasn’t proposed to you yet

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Anonymous 6w

And just for a little more info i’m not mad about the asking for nude part but just the fact that he dwelled on the “if we break up” part so heavily as if I was planning on breaking up

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Anonymous 6w

Reasonable to not want to send nudes, I get where he’s coming from being worried that ur worried abt what happens after breaking up, but there’s nothing wrong w that

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Anonymous 6w

NTA. The only way I could see him being offended is “you insinuated that I’m a shitty guy who would send your nudes to others” but I doubt that’s the case. Nobody is entitled to nudes and you can deny somebody for any reason you want, same as anything related to sex

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Anonymous 5w

Reasonable, I mean bringing up a break up when unnecessary might’ve hurt him a bit. Nobody wants to hear about breaking up bc it can be taken as thought being in your head. Not great phrasing but completely reasonable. I’d just reassure him and make him feel a bit better

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#2 6w

do u think it was shitty how I phrased it?? we are still arguing about it and i’m kind of hard headed I can’t lie, so I haven’t apologized. But looking back was it bad that I kept mentioning if we broke up?

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OP 6w

I mean I think it’s still a good boundary and that is especially good reasoning to have that boundary

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OP 6w

U could have phrased it better the he wouldn’t be so mad but even still it’s reasonable to worry abt that stuff and not want to send nudes cause of it

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OP 6w

I understand why he would take it like that. This probably just means he’s insecure which is completely normal. Just make it very clear that 1 you are with him and you don’t have any intentions of breaking up (assuming that’s true) and 2 say you just aren’t comfortable with nudes yet bc u never know what could happen but you will surly let him know when you are ready 😉

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