Ask Men on Yik Yak | can we stop asking this question? you should only talk abt someone's sexual history if you plan on having sex with them! which often doesn't happen on the first date. it also should only regard STDs/sex related medical issues, and birth control.

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Ask Men 1w

can we stop asking this question? you should only talk abt someone's sexual history if you plan on having sex with them! which often doesn't happen on the first date. it also should only regard STDs/sex related medical issues, and birth control.

Ask Men 1w

Does a women’s sexual history impact your willingness to date her seriously?

#poll

Yes

115 votes

Anonymous 1w

I feel like I mostly agree but like, sometimes I just talk about sexual past with people (who are ok with the topic) just general convo. Like we're not even planing on getting together in any way. Also I feel like when you are is a direct product of where you've like you had to go through there to get here and if you'd gone a different route you'd be a different you.

Anonymous 1w

You say this like dating seriously doesn’t generally mean that ur also gonna sleep together

Anonymous 1w

someone's body count doesn't NOT change who they are because you aren't defined by your past!!

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Anonymous

#1 1w

But judging someone for body count is ridiculously immature and if someone has a "limit" to where they won't date past a certain body count they really shouldn't be dating or having sex imo...

Anonymous

#2 1w

I interpreted as they were having these discussions earlier on into the relationship. You can of course have the intention of dating someone seriously/entering a long term, but conversations like these shouldn't come up until you are actually abt it have sex. In my experience at least if im wanting to be in a long term relationship, im not gonna have sex with then until that's been established so it could be anywhere form 2-5 months in. Since a lot of men say they want something long term 1/2

Anonymous

OP 1w

but leave after you have sex. So sex is off the table until it's been established we are an official couple

Anonymous

#1 1w

i personally don't like to talk abt my sex life or others sex life with people who aren't my sexual partners. so that includes my friends, and they respect my boundaries and don't talk to me abt their sex lives. however, as long as everyone in the conversation is a a consenting adult it's fine, it's just personally for me not something im comfortable talking abt it. i also think it's a bit pointless to discuss if u aren't planning on having sex with them which

Anonymous

OP 1w

It's usually more in the vibe of sharing anecdotes. I'm not just giving stats for no reason. It'll be like "omg bro you won't believe what happened at my hookup the other day" or like "oh hey! That reminds of the time where I was at a hookup's place and..." Or sometimes just for safety like "hey guys, I'm going with this person to this place, I'll message back later" but we're very open about sex and talk about it like any other "hobby" so I can see how that wouldn't be the vibe for everyone

Anonymous

OP 1w

Still, I can’t imagine dating my gf and not knowing anything about that part of her life up until the moment we have sex.

Anonymous

#2 1w

I agree in general that it doesn’t matter but still I would like to know. It’s not actually that important but my problem with refusing to talk about it until right before having sex is that it’s indicative of a lack of trust.

Anonymous

#2 1w

I'd rather tell up front tbh cause I don't wanna get involved and then find out they're gonna leave me just cause of my body count. But I also just feel like I have a vibe of having a sexual history.

Anonymous

#2 1w

Well yes. You have to earn someone's trust. It doesn't happen for me immediately either

Anonymous

#1 1w

i understand that. I don't hook up with people, i only have sex if im in a relationship and at that point i trust them.

Anonymous

OP 1w

Did you mean to include a double negative?