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im genuinely so confused on like why some men complain about being lonely but then don't talk to women?
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Anonymous 4w

I’d identify myself as one of these men. I do not typically talk to women because a) I have had numerous instances where I’ve had no bad intentions and done nothing I considered out of the ordinary and still been castigated for being strange/creepy, and b) the majority of women I have become close with have hurt me in ways I never saw coming, which can only mean that either that’s what women do (so I shouldn’t talk to them) or I don’t know the warning signs (so I *likely* shouldn’t talk to them)

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Anonymous 4w

Maybe they are shy or nervous or just don’t know how or how to learn. Not that I was quite like this but ive def felt at least somewhat like that before but didn’t know how to talk to women

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Anonymous 4w

Well I have women friends and I love them but they always have their inner circle of girl friends that makes me feel lonely

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Anonymous 4w

Because women don’t want us to talk to them.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

I understand the perspective that it seems like a lot of guys are just bitching without doing anything to help themselves. I hope you understand that a lot of these guys have experienced repeated, immense emotional pain any time they’ve tried, haven’t understood why, and have been invalidated when they try to express it. Most guys end up picking loneliness over pain, but that doesn’t mean loneliness doesn’t suck, and it doesn’t mean their choice is unjustified

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

first of all, i'm sorry you've been hurt. i've also been hurt before so i understand. However that doesn't mean you should give up! You also shouldn't make a generalization that *all* women are like that. Just like women shouldn't make generalizations that all men are perverts or rapist. I cannot good conscience speak on your experiences as I was not there, but the advice i can provide is to try to just gain more experience with women instead of shutting them out all together.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 4w

I would love a romantic relationship and crave it daily bur j have only been rejected so idk

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 4w

I’ll never be “one of the girls” in the friend group and it makes me feel othered

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

and by experience i don't mean with dating like i don't think you're ready for that but just trying becoming friends, maybe even try online if IRL is too scary

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 4w

And also idk how to flirt and women always treat me like an acquaintance which is great but I feel so lost and alone with no one that tries to get to know me

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 4w

Im rambling Im sorry I drank a little :3

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

oh? you must've of skipped me when you asked every women in the world if they want men to speak to them lol joking but like what gave you that impression?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Women’s reactions when we approached or tried to speak to them.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

i'm starting to believe there os some disconnection that i'm just missing. ive never once have seen a women tell a man off just for speaking to her? nor have i done it myself. the worst i've seen is kindly expressing disinterest

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Imagine all of the most vindictive, petty, vain, and overall rude women you’ve met throughout your life. Those are the women doing it.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

I’ve outright ignored a woman and wouldn’t even acknowledge her presence when she liked and tried to talk to me and I regret doing that but I was immature. Never saw her again

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