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Ask Men 17w
This guy asked repeatedly for 2ish years for me to be his gf, Saturday told him Id date him, bro legit couldn’t even text me good morning or even respond to my gn text from yesterday, today he’s posting/saw my story but hasn’t texted once whyyy?
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Anonymous 17w

I mean you clearly think he’s beneath you, you probably shouldn’t be together anyway

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Anonymous 17w

Ngl i dont really do allat. Just not my timing

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Anonymous 16w

he seemed to only be interested in the chase, now that he has u he has lost interest

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Anonymous 17w

None of this shit makes any sense

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17w

How do I? I actually value him in my life and he knows that. He’s also almost 10 years older than me, he wanted to skip the dating phase and go straight from friends to marriage and I was taken off guard

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Anonymous replying to -> loverboy 17w

Ooo ok ok

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17w

Well those are some major red flags in and of themselves, but they definitely change the context. My first thought was that you spent 2ish years rejecting him, and now that you finally gave him a chance, less than a week in you’re freaking out that in the last 12 hours he hasn’t dropped whatever he was doing to message you first.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17w

But he’s 10 years older than you, and wanted to skip straight to marriage for the last two years? Has he been trying to wife you since you were 17 and he was 27? That’s like, alarm bells on its own

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17w

No seriously I’m gonna need clarification on this one😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 17w

This started when I 22-23 and he is like 30 something so then he was probably like 30-31 then

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17w

Bestie there’s a tonnnn of other red flags that are peeking thru here, but as someone that dated a man 10 years older than me at 22, DONT. DO THAT. LOL

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 17w

What are the other red flags I’m missing? I know the age is kind of unsettling

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

‘Skip dating and go straight to marriage’ is pretty red-flag

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16w

THIS FS and also I’m ngl pursuing someone for more than a few months after they’ve said no is just insane behavior. If someone is not interested in me or has to come around to being interested then it’s kinda pathetic to still desire them. I will never again in my life choose people that don’t choose me back.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 16w

Also I mean I don’t think age gaps are that big of a deal especially as you get older but there is a serious difference in a 22 and 32 year old and that makes it weirder for men that age to pursue women that young. Like I think I was more mature emotionally than my ex but still we were just in SUCH different places in life objectively.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 16w

Someone mentioned that

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