We’re wired for problem solving to get the issue over with, we just think differently and most guys don’t understand that so they think they’re doing you a favor.

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We do not like to see women in distress. That’s why we immediately resort to problem solving.

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Because men are solvers. Over the years I’ve had to learn when yall are ranting or venting yall just want us to listen.

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He doesn’t wanna see you in distress, he wants to make the uncomfortable feelings go away both for you and him. It’s hard for guys to sit with emotional discomfort because we aren’t really exposed to it in our friend groups. You have to tell him straight up that you need to vent first before problem solving

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“ I don’t want you to fix it, I want you to just listen@

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Do you want help or do you wanna whine. Our first instinct is to help

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most men want to fix things. if you just want to rant start off by saying something along the lines of "i just need to rant dont try to fix this"

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That’s our first instinct lol

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Do you not want help? 😭

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Because we try to find a logical solution to your problems to try to make you feel better. That’s something I’ve had to work on is just listen and not try to help, but sometimes the answer just seems so obvious

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Why would you wanna yap about being sad when you could fix something and no longer be sad😭

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