Anonymous strawberry_hair 12w

i fear my type in men may be to blame for some of this 😭

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Anonymous OP 12w

That might be it. Dare I ask what your type of men is?

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 12w

nerds. and not the “hot nerd” type of guy, like the guy that wears a zelda shirt unironically

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Anonymous OP 12w

I like nerds too! But there’s a difference from those who see bisexuals as their fantasy come true verse those who see us as a person.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 12w

yeahhhh my community is also pretty small (but it’ll be better soon thank god) so hopefully more open minded nerds come my way

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Anonymous OP 12w

Good luck!

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Anonymous #5 12w

Why is that? Why would you doubt anyone telling you their sexuality?

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 12w

Because most of the time you’ll ask them and they tell you they’ve never been with a woman (that’s called bi-curious in my book)

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 12w

And a lot of times they’ll make it a cornerstone of their personality

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Anonymous #5 12w

I think you are sorely mistaken. Just because someone hasn’t had the opportunity to date or be with a woman doesn’t make them any less bisexual. I mean, if you had never dated a woman does that mean you can’t be straight? That logic is just incorrect. Bi-curious is something entirely different.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 12w

That’s a good point.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 12w

I guess the stigma OP is talking about might stem from men like me seeing a woman’s bisexuality as a threat to relationship

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Anonymous #5 12w

That doesn’t surprise me. I’m generally open about this on Ask women but much less on here. I’ve been out as bisexual for 9 years now. I’ve heard it all. That bisexual women are prone to cheating, that we only do it for men’s attention- whatever you say I’ve heard it. And I can assure you that in this case you are incorrect. There’s no more chance of a bisexual woman cheating then of a straight women cheating. More “options” doesn’t equal an unfaithful partner.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 12w

Yeah those are all fair and logical points and I’ve actually dated a couple of bisexual women and I’ll admit I’ve had a negative experience with one which has shaped some of my views. It’s an unfair stigma that women like you are up against but I think it’s particularly difficult when dating more sensitive heterosexual men. The only additional devils advocate point would be to ask how you/other women would feel about dating a bisexual man.

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Anonymous #5 12w

hi, as a bi women i wouldn’t care what my partners orientation is as long as they’re attracted to and want to be with me. if there’s mutual understanding that’s all that matters :)

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Anonymous #5 12w

I’ve happily dated bisexual men before. You are using your negative experiences to color everything. Which is understandable up to a certain point however you should not invalidate people’s sexuality so easily. I’m glad you at least acknowledge that you are bias but you can’t simply blame it on “sensitivities”

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 12w

Ah yes of course me talking about my sexuality gets downvoted. If you wanted to say I was wrong just say it so we can have a discussion. But I won’t stay quiet about my sexuality.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 12w

I love how you’ve changed my mind delicately, surgically removing bits and pieces of misogyny left in my brain. I’m sure I’ll be in for an operation again in the near future.

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