Anonymous sea_taco 4w

It’s hard bc they aren’t reciprocating lol

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Anonymous OP 4w

What have you been trying so far?

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Anonymous sea_taco 4w

Going up to them, going to places alone

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Anonymous #3 4w

No bc I hat I’m seeing is that guys want us to do all of it

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Anonymous OP 4w

“Guys want us to do it all wah wah” as if guys haven’t been the ones to have to be the initiators for years upon years

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Anonymous bobthebuilt 4w

It’s seem like a lot of them think that, but yeah I wanna move

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Anonymous #6 4w

How often does that happen tho? I see it online but irl most girls aren’t rude, just say no n move about their day

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Anonymous OP 4w

True. But it’s also hard to cold approach someone… like at the grocery store? 😅

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Anonymous #6 4w

lol yeah it can be…idk it’s happened to me before and I didn’t mind it 😭 depends how they go about it

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Anonymous #3 4w

yeah that's how it's traditionally supposed to be done?

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Anonymous #7 4w

Literally! Tbh I like it

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Anonymous OP 4w

no if it ain't broke don't fix it

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Anonymous #8 4w

I love the cold

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Anonymous OP 4w

that’s nice to hear

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Anonymous #9 4w

I mean I can agree somewhat but I do think men should be the ones doing it more

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Anonymous OP 4w

I mean why though?

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Anonymous #9 4w

I just prefer it, it’s also been done in times past

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Anonymous OP 4w

What are you doing when you go up with them?

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Anonymous OP 4w

Ok, but if you’re not gonna take initiative then you just have to deal with the fact that things will move slower

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Anonymous OP 4w

It’s just a little silly to say that guys who prefer not to approach should change that, while you who prefer not to approach and are stuck in your ways

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Anonymous #9 4w

Saying like hey I think you’re cute, could I have ur number

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Anonymous #9 4w

I never said that 100%. I have approached before. I just prefer guys to do it lol. Being open minded

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Anonymous OP 4w

Oh lol then they’re probably not interested. How are they responding?

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Anonymous OP 4w

But you’re doing the right thing I think. Maybe trying to spark a little conversation or throw in a compliment before you ask their number, but also sometimes it just takes time before it works out

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Anonymous OP 4w

Yeah I saw your above comment now. I mean I think almost everyone would prefer to be approached. It can be hard to approach, it take vulnerability, it can feel embarrassing, sometimes (never been my experience but I know it happens) people can respond rudely, sometimes you worry about upsetting or annoying someone. But it’sjust something we all gotta do

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Anonymous #9 4w

I prefer to do that bc it lets me know if they’re single or not or their age. Ppl think I’m younger than I am, so I want to clarify beforehand lol. It’s been fine, they all responded nicely even if they had a gf or weren’t interested

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Anonymous OP 4w

I’ve never been approached, I’m sure it would be nice, but at the same time building up the courage to talk to someone new and it working in your favor is a great feeling. Ultimately worth all of the anxiety and rejection

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Anonymous #9 4w

I think my issue is I’m trying to get out of my comfort zone, but other ppl aren’t, like idk if they’re attracted or not, but they could try but they never do. Do u get what im saying?

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Anonymous #9 4w

Yeah ofc. I have been doing that, I guess my point is some guys will shoot themselves in the foot before they even try, in my case I’ve had ppl think I was taken, I was a bitch etc but they never went up so they didn’t know before lol

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Anonymous #7 4w

But it is broke 😭

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Anonymous #6 4w

I met my ex at the grocery store lol

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Anonymous #7 4w

Some cultures do it the other way, even though it is less common, women aren’t any less capable of taking initiative, and once you get more tolerant to rejection it’s not so bad anyways. Guys need to stop whining about it too. Everyone needs to just stop whining and grow tf up

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Anonymous #7 4w

I think women would benefit from taking charge too, it gives you a greater selection and more choice in your options. Idk why we still have these conversations. I mean if you don’t want to do it then fine, but you can’t complain about other people not wanting to do it and then not want to do it

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Anonymous #9 4w

What’d you say to them? Lol

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Anonymous OP 4w

I told her that she looked pretty

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Anonymous #9 4w

i just want a traditional guy who isn't afraid to approach

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Anonymous #7 4w

And I just want a non-traditional woman who isn’t afraid to approach

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Anonymous #7 4w

I like that too. I like outgoing , confident guys

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Anonymous #10 4w

okay, and why are you forcing that onto OP? what's so wrong with wanting to stay within traditional norms. that's good for you but not everyone wants that. i want a man who is secure enough in his masculinity to approach a woman

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Anonymous #7 4w

The problem is that it’s like guys don’t want to approach at all now. When they expect us to do all of it now, when gender roles are still not where they need to be. Women are still over worked, and underpaid, more so than men. So this will be another thing added to our plate? Also, I do approach sometime, but I don’t want to do it all the time

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Anonymous OP 4w

I promise you guys still approach more than women

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Anonymous #7 4w

Ok then just be patient and don’t complain about it

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Anonymous OP 4w

Say that to a construction worker or anyone that does outdoor, hands on work

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Anonymous OP 4w

It’s called them not liking u take a hint

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Anonymous #11 4w

What does that mean? That doesn’t even correlate. If I’ve gone up to them, sometimes they said yes, sometimes they’ve said no

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Anonymous #3 4w

What

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Anonymous #9 4w

#9… next thing you’re going to say: “idk why men struggle so much? I have tons of women approaching me. Right after i get done modeling for Abercrombie and Calvin Klein. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

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