Anonymous #2 2w

they hate YOUR attention bc you have a terrible personality

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Anonymous #3 2w

I’m not. I mean objectively I’m doing well. Im short which men usually like. I have very long hair which men usually like. Clear skin. I’m thin. Great ass. Very educated. Good job. Good communicator. Idk

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Anonymous OP 2w

I hope I didn’t come across as rude! I was more talking that there is proof that you don’t need to be perfect! I’m sure you are lovely!

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Anonymous #3 2w

No I didn’t take it as rude lol. I was just kinda reflecting on how your statement relates to me

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Anonymous OP 2w

I don’t give them attention, look at what women say online

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Anonymous #3 2w

I guess I have gotten more “success” by joining clubs and going to events in college and just trying to talk to people! I have not had a relationship but had some dates where I didn’t feel the spark or they didn’t, which is ok because I don’t want just anyone I want someone who is good for me, and you should want someone who appreciates you for you!

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Anonymous #3 2w

I have lots of guys talk to me. I just kinda shoot my self in the foot and end things before they can

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Anonymous OP 2w

I guess know your standards and don’t “settle”, and if you see someone that may work just try to talk to them, you don’t have to flirt right away!

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Anonymous OP 2w

Ok well that’s good to know! I know I have self sabotaging tendencies sometimes! That may be something you want to journal about or meditate or talk to a therapist! But it’s great you recognize it, that takes lots of insight!!

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Anonymous #3 2w

lol that’s actually one of the biggest problems for me rn. In college I definitely pushed interested men away bc I felt like I didn’t deserve them. But now I’m graduated and it’s just a bunch of misogynistic men who put 0% effort into themselves but women to be 10/10 in all regards

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Anonymous OP 2w

Oof yea I’m in college rn so I don’t have much experience in post college life! But I guess if you don’t want dating apps, you need to put yourself in the vicinity of people (hobby clubs, bar, coed sports, more?), to keep “rolling the dice” to see if someone is a match! It’s also great ur not settling for misogyny and disrespect! Truly shows you do value urself which is super important!

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Anonymous #3 2w

But you have demonstrated in these comments that you both don’t need to be perfect, and it’s about you wanting them too. That’s so big to not fall into a toxic relationship so be proud of urself!!

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Anonymous #3 2w

I was in a TERRIBLE relationship in college and definitely won’t be doing that again

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Anonymous OP 2w

Well it’s good you know ur worth! I think it just is super hard to find a match (I never have so I would know lmao), and many ppl “settle”, or date, someone they know isn’t going to be long term just to not be lonely, which makes it seem like everyone else has found their person

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Anonymous #2 2w

Womp womp

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