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Is it silly for me to be so fucked up by this breakup even though we were never actually official?

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Anonymous 4w

No not one bit. For me I have been dating for a long time now and all I’ve had was long taking stages and when that’s all you have experienced it’s gonna suck. But I have to imagine once I experience an official relationship it will change tho

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Anonymous 4w

Imma say no actually. I got fucked up over less and honestly being vulnerable with people allows for this to happen. You are not abnormal at all

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Anonymous 4w

For extra context, she had to end things because of something going on in her personal life, so it wasn’t like a compatibility thing it was just she’s going through a lot rn. Also I was literally planning on asking her about being official on the next date

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Anonymous 4w

Guys sorry I’m still venting, but this is literally so fucking painful. It’s only been a few days so I know it will get better, but I just feel paralyzed by my emotions right now. Just like a dull ache constantly, sometimes crying, especially when I’m by myself. I’m taking this pretty hard I guess

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Anonymous 4w

you’re like the fake boyfriend in Red Rocket

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Anonymous

#2 4w

Yeah I mean I’m sure it varies from person to person. I was so enamored with her pretty much from when we met, I actually stopped talking to anyone else after our first date, so like yk I put a lot of stakes into this, and I felt it was worth it for her. This isn’t always the case when I’m dating someone, in fact it never has been

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Anonymous

#2 4w

But also like it happened at a time where there were only good memories, so I I’m struggling to rationalize it or think of ways that this is actually good for me, it’s just like something out of my control. I’ll get past it eventually, but the wound is still very raw

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Anonymous

#3 4w

I mean I have a friend who has a lot more relationship experience than I, and she told me based on what I told her and the situation it was pretty understandable. It kind of varies not only on personal experience, but the intensity of the connection and the circumstances of the end. And she did say that breakups like this where it’s totally amicable but just due to life circumstances can be extra sucky

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Anonymous

#3 4w

But I can’t help but feel naive still idk

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Anonymous

#4 4w

Idk what that means lol

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