Ask Men on Yik Yak | wondering how other guys feel: my bf doesn’t let me club. i respect his boundaries and don’t go but i still don’t get it. i go in large groups (including w his own friends), dress modestly for club standards, don’t talk to any guys whatsoever

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wondering how other guys feel: my bf doesn’t let me club. i respect his boundaries and don’t go but i still don’t get it. i go in large groups (including w his own friends), dress modestly for club standards, don’t talk to any guys whatsoever

Anonymous 5w

he’s insecure about it because guys view clubbing purely as a way to meet someone for romantic or sexual interests whereas some women view it as an outing with the girls just for fun without the other subtext

Anonymous 5w

(continued) i just want to have a fun time with my girlfriends. ive literally even invited him to come because he’s more than welcome and he says no. if he’s not into it that’s totally fine but i don’t understand why i can’t. he uses the age old excuse “it’s not that i don’t trust you it’s about other guys” which pmo. i’ve literally been approached before in the club i literally just immediately walk the other way don’t give them any attention whatsoever

Anonymous 5w

Thats not what a boundary is

Anonymous 5w

my boyfriend is like this too, he doesn’t want me to go to any parties at all

Anonymous 5w

w bf. its definitely not the only reason but if you go without him, he will worry the whole time about your safety.

Anonymous 5w

he isnt insecure for making boundaries

Anonymous 5w

I’m going to be completely honest, just because you ignore other guys at the club doesn’t mean they’ll listen, men are extremely dangerous especially ones with huge egos. Some men don’t take no for an answer and they’ll do whatever they can to get what they want.

Anonymous 5w

It's because as a man, he understands the way men think and behave far better than you do. This is not a matter of trusting you or not, it is about him trusting other men which he rightly does not.

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Anonymous

#2 5w

Honestly I would prolly break up with him but thats me

Anonymous

#2 5w

we’ve been tgt for 4 years and everything is amazing which i know based on this single post it might not seem like it. but i def don’t care abt clubbing/partying enough to end our relationship. but it’s just a little annoying

Anonymous

OP 5w

Fair enough lol 🤷‍♂️idk I wouldn’t want to date someone who is clubbing all the time or partying all the time but like I couldn’t stop them if they wanted to yk? If it was just too much for me then I would consider us incompatible

Anonymous

stanczyk 5w

i’m sure there’s tons of guys at the club with the sole intentions of meeting a girl for romantic/sexual reasons. but that doesn’t change the fact that i don’t interact with any of them

Anonymous

#2 5w

yeah i agree abt that. however even if he was fine with it i still wouldn’t be out every other weekend partying, it’d just be once in a while. i just want to have the option to do so. i think i just care more about not wanting to be told what to do than actually being able to go out lol

Anonymous

#5 5w

what makes the club more dangerous than any other public space?

Anonymous

#6 5w

of course, however in a group of 5-8 other people the odds of something like that happening without one of them noticing and doing something slim to none

Anonymous

OP 5w

My group and I went out clubbing two years ago there were about 7 of us. One of the women in our group had been drugged and none of us knew, luckily no body tried anything but she still got drugged.