Anonymous #3 2w

Every night (unless one of us gets busy)

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Anonymous #2 2w

Oh I see ty

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Anonymous OP 2w

And how long do y’all Usually call for?

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Anonymous #3 2w

Usually 2-3 hours but we’ve gone 4+ hours before

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Anonymous OP 2w

Idk, this is a tough one ngl. On one hand it it’s important to stay connected and involved in each others lives, but on the other you also need to have the time and space to live your own lives and be present where you are. I did distance for a year and I never felt like I was as close to my partner as I wanted to be, you just can’t make up for not being there. My twin is currently doing distance though and I see how it impacts him negatively sometimes. Him and his gf will call every night for -

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Anonymous #3 2w

An hour plus and as a result he often misses the things that we’re supposed to be doing together. It’s very sweet that they make time for eachother but sometimes I think being present is more important.

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Anonymous #3 2w

Please take this with a huge grain of salt because I don’t know y’all’s situation but maybe call less often? Or for less time? Even if you love someone very much sometimes it’s just too much to do all your stuff doing the day then budget out a few hours for that on top of homework and some bit of social activity for yourself.

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Anonymous #3 2w

That’s completely understandable and since I’m quite busy with college and I’m taking a ton of courses, I actually don’t have much of a social friend group just because I like to prioritize my studying so practically when I’m not studying I usually am at the gym or I call my boyfriend

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Anonymous OP 2w

I get that! I was largely the same way but I had some friends who would do stuff on the weekends and I would either have to miss it or would show up exhausted because I’d be driving to see my gf all the time. Point is that being present is important too. Not that talking to your bf isn’t important, it absolutely is, but you also want to experience the place you are.

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Anonymous #3 2w

What helped me and my gf at the time was figuring out rituals that showed that we cared but didn’t take up so much of our days. We’d do a long call every other day or 2 days but we’d also text and watch the same shows and whatnot. Also we’d write little notes for eachother / send little drawing and things like that. Just to show that we cared and were there for eachother, even if we weren’t talking all the time

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Anonymous #3 2w

Aw that’s so sweet I’ll try to talk it out with him tonight ty for the tips and tricks

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