Ask Men on Yik Yak | As a bisexual woman, who has dated a lot pf straight men a re occurring is them not accepting my bisexuality. The most they do is ask for a 3sum. (Which isn't respecting it at all) Why is this?

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As a bisexual woman, who has dated a lot pf straight men a re occurring is them not accepting my bisexuality. The most they do is ask for a 3sum. (Which isn't respecting it at all) Why is this?

Anonymous 1w

Unfortunately I think you might have just had bad luck with the guys that you’ve dated

Anonymous 1w

I think this is unfortunately a not rare thing bi men and women face. I am sure many ppl are accepting tho (I would hope)

Anonymous 1w

Not really exactly sure what you mean, but as I see it if I was in a relationship with a bi woman I wouldn’t want her telling me who she finds attractive woman or man unless it’s like a celebrity thing. I mean I’d acknowledge that she is bi but at the moment it doesn’t make much of a difference to me cause she’s with me

Anonymous 1w

I mean, I’d be fine with dating a bi woman, though I am confused by what you mean by accepting your bisexuality. Like isn’t dating you and holding you accountable for your interactions with men and women enough for that trait specifically?

Anonymous 1w

Just date women then if you have a problem with the men you’ve dated

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Anonymous

#1 1w

i'm still queer, even if im in a straight presenting relationship. so that means i should be able to bring my sexuality partners to queer spaces but no one them has ever really seen the "point" in that. it's also in that bc im queer im not adhering to the traditional gender roles with a straight relationship.

Anonymous

OP 1w

Ah I see, ig as a straight man with queer friends that gone to places with them where there are other queer people I didn’t think other guys would be that weird about it. I also don’t really care about gender roles and think both partners should be able to pick up slack for each others in areas they aren’t well versed in, the only role I really adhere to is being a protector cause I’m just inclined to stick up for those around me even if they’re stronger

Anonymous

#1 1w

maybe it's the men ive dated

Anonymous

OP 1w

Could be, unfortunately a lot of men are still don’t view lgbt positively at all

Anonymous

#4 1w

it's more so the men i've been with have this preconceived expectations, used minor homophobic language, and not accompanying me to pride/queer centric events or in one extreme case not even letting me go on my own. the minor homophobic language isn't like they r calling me slurs or whatever, it's more like they excessively used "gay" as an insult.

Anonymous

#1 1w

in 2025 is crazy

Anonymous

#5 1w

Mostly a reason why many bi men are still closeted in 2025 imo

Anonymous

OP 1w

Well, I don’t know, going to somewhere based on sexuality seems kinda sus you know, like you’re looking for some action or something. Personally and I don’t know if it’s because I’m straight, but it just is odd to like show off or like, do anything to display your sexuality. Cause even if there was a straight flag or something, I don’t think I’d ever use it.

Anonymous

#4 1w

🫩 OP just wants to celebrate their truth out in the open with other people in the community, same as any other minority group celebrating what they are

Anonymous

#6 1w

Their truth? I don’t know, I just find it odd to make your sexual stuff open and stuff as someone who just wants that stuff private. Like seriously if that had a spot for like straight people for the sake of straightness or whatever, I feel people would just assume people hook up there and stuff. And after some pride parades legit had people in straight up BDSM gear on and other lewd stuff, I just don’t feel comfortable in those spaces and same with a partner going. If that makes sense.

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Anonymous

#4 1w

I mean you kinda extrapolating allowing someone to express themselves with the actions of others which is odd imo

Anonymous

#5 1w

Well considering guys often have to do that because of the actions of bad men making it so we have to like be weary of walking behind a woman at night whose just going the same direction, or not be as like flirtatious or expressive of our interests to avoid being creepy or get hr called on us, it practically part of of life for us. Bad people ruin things for people all the time. So ya, pride and queer stuff just seem so lewd, because of bad actors, so it affects how I interpret those spaces.

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Anonymous

#4 1w

it's definitely time for some queer education. Sexual orientation is an umbrella term that encompass who you are ROMANTICALLY attracted too, as well as sexually. Places like drag shows, queer bars, parades, and events are not just places for queer ppl to have sex. Now i would be here all day if i explained to why pride is important. In a nutshell tho, like most other minority groups, it's to celebrate your identity and honor the history of those who fought for our right to live our truth.

Anonymous

#4 1w

So the reason there isn't a places for straight people to show their pride is because the world is made for straight people to show their pride. Straight couples havw always had representation in media and pop culture and musical and queer people were forced into hiding who they are. It's not a choice to be gay or straight, and everyone should be proud of who they love.

Anonymous

#4 1w

As for the kink and leather community, it has a long history of being a safe space for queer individuals. Which is why you saw people in that gear. Assuming the place was 18+ and they were publically engaging in sexual acts then im not exactly sure what the issue is if they were just wearing leather/BDSM gear?

Anonymous

#4 1w

i want to be able to show my parents off and most of my friends are queer. I also want to share an important part of me with the person i love.