Anonymous #1 4w

Don’t include me in yall.

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Anonymous #3 4w

I’ve bought a man flowers before

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Anonymous OP 4w

Ok you’re a good one

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Anonymous #4 4w

Ive also heard it can be seen as lovebombing

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Anonymous #4 4w

They’re not romantics like I am 💔

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Anonymous OP 4w

Yeah women are cooked fr and don’t value romance anymore. Like imagine any other era where bringing women flowers would be seen as a bad thing 🙄

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Anonymous #4 4w

I’ve been having the opposite issue where men don’t care for romance anymore lol

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Anonymous OP 4w

Damn seems like we both would be great for each other then 🫡

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Anonymous #3 4w

I gave my ex flowers all the time! Made sure to get his favorite 😋

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Anonymous OP 4w

Me either!

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Anonymous #1 4w

Four downvotes for something that’s true 😭

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Anonymous #3 4w

U fucking diva grow a pair

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Anonymous #7 4w

Womp womp

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Anonymous #1 4w

Been sayin that like “whEreS ouRs ” womp womp lil nigga 🤣

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Anonymous #1 4w

Aye make it 6 for a lazy fucking lie 🙏🏻

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Anonymous #8 4w

*to* damn it

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Anonymous #7 4w

Im sorry that you've never received a flower before. I hope that one day you are able to experience the gift of a flower

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Anonymous #7 4w

If you downvote ik women sure as FUCK dont talk to you willingly 😭

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Anonymous #7 4w

Hi there 👋- a WOMAN that downvoted. (Men deserve flowers too if they want them. Stop being judgmental for no reason)

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Anonymous #10 4w

Not to a real woman

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Anonymous #1 4w

So…. Clearly that means it’s NOT true lmao. Very few women feel that way

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Anonymous #4 4w

😚😚

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Anonymous #8 4w

LMAO, sorry but I fuck up my txt spellings all the time

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Anonymous #6 4w

All men deserve their flowers 100% read the og post you genius. I’m just responding to a puss ass boy that wouldn’t know bare minimum if it spit in his mouth.

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Anonymous #7 4w

Perhaps instead of insulting someone you could think about why no woman will willingly talk to you. Bc it seems like an obvious projection onto other people of your predicament. I feel sorry your own mother doesn't talk to you willingly.

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Anonymous #19 4w

Whoever told u that is a liar.

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Anonymous #17 4w

ngl. It’s the effort that counts. A guy could pick flowers from a random field or off the side of the road, and I’d still happily take them because he put in the EFFORT.

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Anonymous #10 4w

If it’s scene as cheesy or cringe to a woman you’re trying to give them to, she’s immature.

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Anonymous #13 4w

I agree with this. The whole “don’t simp” and “nonchalant” epidemic has truly worsened the dating scene

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Anonymous #13 4w

Hmm i see your point and think for some men I agree, but also on the other hand i think most men and people in general put in as much effort as they receive and do not escalate that amount of effort

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Anonymous #2 4w

This goes for men and women

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Anonymous #2 4w

I.e when both parties put X effort because they see the other party put X effort, it will never get to Y effort because both wait for the other to escalate

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Anonymous OP 4w

Every date I’ve gone on the last 9 months has told me she didn’t feel a romantic spark it’s been really draining 🥲

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Anonymous #6 4w

Seen enough off yy

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Anonymous #19 4w

Then clearly you’re going on dates with women who have different personalities than you. Which works sometimes but not always. If you’re a more energetic and outgoing person that’s willing to express themselves freely, not all people are like that. But I understand it being draining I’m sorry 🩶

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Anonymous OP 4w

Ngl modern dating incentivizes minimal effort and commitment. Half the time it just ends up in getting ghosted effort or not, so it’s better to just not expect anything and only actually invest more effort when you know it’s going somewhere. I’d rather save my time, emotions, and effort for someone I know will actually appreciate them once I’ve known them for a bit

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Anonymous #18 4w

This is kind of what I was getting at

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Anonymous #18 4w

That’s the thing tho. So many people think the same way and thus don’t care enough to put in the effort TO know them more. It’s truly draining to try and get to know a person but they take it as moving to fast when I’m really trying to see the kinda person they are 😭

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Anonymous OP 4w

Effort to know them more ≠ items imo, I think people (men and women) think that they will find someone without effort and dont try to get to know them, and in so it becomes a feedback loop from past experiences

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Anonymous #7 4w

I don’t see any reason for the vulgarity in these comments tbh. 😭 he asked the same question I asked just switched the gender roles and there’s nothing wrong with a man wanting flowers at all

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Anonymous #2 4w

Yeah that’s what I was trying to say. It’s just getting exhausting how much people expect from things that they aren’t willing to put effort into 😞

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Anonymous OP 4w

Seen**

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Anonymous OP 4w

Yea I find it exhausting. I have been trying to find friends and I find the same issue. People just don’t want to put in effort at all idk it’s not a gender thing tho it’s a new cultural thing

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Anonymous #2 4w

Yeah 100% agree.

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Anonymous OP 4w

I’ll def put effort into getting to know her, but for the sake of protecting my own emotional peace after getting burned too many times in the past, I just can’t invest much more initially anymore. I think it’s smarter tbh, that way you conserve your energy and effort for ppl that you can actually have a future with once you’ve established that rapport. Knowing I got flowers for someone that ghosted me like I didn’t even exist just feels like shit, I’d rather save it for someone I trust and like

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Anonymous #18 4w

I understand that. But I feel like it’s hard to experience the bare minimum on dates with both genders nowadays.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Yeah it’s kinda just a race to the bottom atp overall, but I feel like when you meet someone you just click with, that happening makes up for other stuff bc it’s fun by itself

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Anonymous #18 4w

I’ve seemingly “clicked” with a few people really quickly recently but by the second day that I try to talk to them it’s like I’m not even talking to the same person. They act all excited and kind the night prior and the next day it’s just completely different

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Anonymous OP 4w

That’s what I mean, if ppl act like that at least you didn’t put all your effort in and can save it for the right person

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Anonymous #18 4w

Yeah. Idek what I’m looking for anymore I’m so lost in the dating world cause idk what’s acceptable to guys anymore 😂

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Anonymous OP 4w

I say look for the person you’d see yourself ideally living the rest of your life with; that gives me more purpose and eliminates a lot of ppl from consideration

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Anonymous #18 4w

So definitely not anyone within a 10 mile radius of me. (I live on campus at the biggest party school in my state) 💔

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Anonymous OP 4w

I mean I’d never say never, I rly doubt *everyone* there just wants to waste their time romantically and “have fun”

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Anonymous #18 4w

I have yet to find them. But maybe

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Anonymous #21 4w

Maybe you’re going out with the wrong women then.

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Anonymous OP 4w

I’ve been on 20 dates since since my freshman year, half of them I got flowers had great conversations good laughs. Same result everytime. If that’s not a sign I dunno what is sorry.

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Anonymous OP 4w

i mean you can’t blame a woman for not seeing compatibility with someone after a second date. that’s how dating goes. you’re not gonna be a perfect match with everyone. its can be nerve wracking to do a romantic gesture for someone you’re not sure is even into you. or if you’re even into them yet.

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Anonymous #5 4w

Look I ain’t saying anything abt not getting them flowers when we’re going out, I agree we should. But getting them before all that is just not worth it if the results gonna stick. If there is someone worth all that trouble, then yeah for sure. Expecting me to get a women I don’t even know is gonna stick around is asking too much.

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Anonymous #21 4w

Expecting me to do all that to get a women*

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Anonymous #21 4w

i mean it’s like $5 from the grocery store but yeah i get it. it’s still romantic effort and it sucks to make that kind of gesture when the energy isn’t reciprocated. i’ve dated women as a woman and it’s disappointing to get a woman flowers and it’s the last time you see her.

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Anonymous #21 4w

it’s not that getting them flowers was the killer of the relationship. things likely ended because you just weren’t compatible. the first few dates are for figuring that out

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Anonymous #5 4w

$5?! Bruh I got $15 flowers once because they were on sale, hell no $5 in this economy, you are running 20-30 nowadays usually

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Anonymous #22 4w

grocery stores sells small bunches of flowers at $5 a piece.

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Anonymous #5 4w

5 bucks???? 😭😭😭 Girl they cost 25 at Walgreens. And ofc I trynna be that guy so I always buy them at a flower shop with their favorite color so ts costs me 45 bucks everytime 😭💀

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Anonymous #22 4w

i just bought flowers for my man at harris teeter. you can get em cheap at harris teeter, trader joe’s, literally any grocery stores

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Anonymous #16 4w

why not??

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Anonymous #22 4w

you can't blame someone for not feeling a connection, that doesn't mean they didn't appreciate the flowers and probably you as a person. just bc you got them flowers tho doesn't mean they owe you a whole relationship??

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Anonymous vangogh 4w

This is literally what we all saying and they getting pressed 😭😭😭💔

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Anonymous #5 4w

What fucking grocery store are you going to?!

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Anonymous #23 4w

Ghosting someone who literally spent 20 bucks on flowers for you is rude, at least send a message and say you didn’t feel a connection

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Anonymous #22 4w

ok fair point i don't support ghosting

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Anonymous #10 4w

My boyfriend brings home flowers for me every month or two just because, and every single time I consider myself so grateful I found someone that has mutual attention to detail in our relationship and sees little things like that as bare minimum for himself. He IS cheesy lol but it’s never cringey. The best thing in the world is someone that chooses you back every day.

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Anonymous #5 4w

Literally pulling my hair out looking at everyone disagreeing but TRADER JOES FLOWERS ARE $5 (usually, mostly). Sometimes seasonal big flowers like peonies may be like $10, but I recently had a birthday party with bouquet making and we bought like 10 different types of flower sleeves from TJs and it was yeah like $50-75? We got 2 things of hydrangeas I think those were a bit more lol

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Anonymous #21 4w

Also some flower shops are cheaper, my bf found one of those “by the flower” places and he just picked whatever he wanted and made the bouquet himself and it was solely the cost of the flowers and fillers which were like $1 a piece including for the roses. So the whole self-made bouquet was cheap as fuck (he LOVED it, felt so accomplished AND it was cheap)! I don’t know what they’re called exactly.. a Wholesale Florist I think maybe??

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Anonymous OP 4w

You were downvoted but my bf ALSO did this. He pulled over to pick someone’s wild lilies for me😭he didn’t know they were dangerous for our cats so he found the wholesaler just after that but it was the thought that counted!!! He saw pretty flowers otw home to me and stopped to pick them!!!!!🥺is cute

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Anonymous #24 4w

And I only had a video of them but these are the ones we picked at that mom’s farm and it was actually really fun even tho he didn’t think he’d have fun at first and just did it bc I wanted to. Also I felt like for the price of the cup (which we can bring back and use next year at her farm, how cute is that?!) it was SOOO worth it for what we got. We also went at the end of season so these were what was leftover and I loved them for the month they lasted!

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