Anonymous #1 6d

Because being forced to penetrate isn’t a valid concept in this kind of stuff

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Anonymous #1 6d

i mean no its still SA? Women can SA men especially if you've consent at first but changed your mind doing and the person doesn't get off of you

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Anonymous OP 6d

Im not saying it’s correct, it’s just the truth of the matter

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Anonymous #2 6d

You’re that femcel in the other convo arent you?

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Anonymous #2 6d

Chud

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Anonymous #2 5d

at least 1 in 6 men have been sexually assaulted. ik of two in my life, and both happened when they were kids.

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Anonymous OP 4d

What #1 is saying is correct in some places. When most rape laws were written back in the day they defined rape as “penetration” so for a long time women were legally incapable of rape unless they got frisky with their fingers.

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Anonymous #7 4d

you didn't want to see the person who did that to you receive punishment?

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Anonymous #7 4d

or at least have someone help you through the trauma

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Anonymous OP 4d

If anyone was punished, it would’ve been me.

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Anonymous #7 4d

so did it happen when you were a kid and you just didn't understand it and thought you were gonna get in trouble if you had said something? im sorry i just don't understand how you didn’t see a reason to say something

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Anonymous OP 3d

Because, like me, they probably would’ve believed the woman in a “he says, she says” situation if they both accused the other

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Anonymous #9 3d

that explains you didn't go to the police but still doesn't explain why u didn't tell someone

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Anonymous OP 3d

I told an FWB a few years later because we were hooking up and my rape caused some issues for me, she seemed to understand. I caught feelings for her, she didn’t like that, then she made fun of me for said issues and sent me pics of her naked in another dude’s bed.

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Anonymous OP 3d

Why would I tell someone? I don’t see any benefit

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Anonymous #9 2d

I had almost the same thing happen with my first GF in college, but the issues were due to being physically abused as a kid. Pretty much the same result tho

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Anonymous #7 2d

to help you work through the traumatic experience

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Anonymous OP 2d

There’s nothing to work through, though. Someone used their power to force me to obey them. I don’t like it, but it happens.

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Anonymous #7 2d

there is absolutely something to work through. you literally said it caused you issues within the bedroom, that's called a trauma response. also sexual assault/abuse, is not at all something we need ti be non chalant about. especially when jt happens to men. men's mental health is always important

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Anonymous OP 2d

Not important enough to do anything about. Harvey Weinstein went to jail, but you guys don’t even remember what Asia Argento did, do you?

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Anonymous OP 2d

I never said that being sexually assaulted caused me issues in the bedroom. I don’t like that I was assaulted, but it happened. Life goes on; there’s no benefit to dwelling on it.

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Anonymous #7 1d

taking care of your mental health is important to get better, im not sure why both of you as men aren't even advocating for men's mental health as victims of trauma. its not "dwelling" on it and i hate how you view it that way. it's literally part of the reason why men's mental health goes untreated. you might feel fine but you're not, and the only way out is through.

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Anonymous OP 1d

You’re literally telling me that you know about my mental state better than I do. Sorry, that’s just not the case. Not everyone is traumatized by the same experience. I do think that men’s mental health is important, and that anyone who is traumatized should seek help.

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Anonymous #7 1d

Trust me as I have two very important men in my life that were just like you and claimed they weren't traumatized, and they were and it ended up ruining their relationships. All because they didn't work through that trauma. You don't always recognize that you have it, and you're right I can't force you to do anything but just know that the body keeps score.

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Anonymous OP 18h

I'm not sure I believe that. And you're hurting women by trying to "me too" this issue for men. It blunts the point.

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Anonymous OP 18h

I know it feels equal and fair to say it can affect anyone but it mostly affects women. Men don't get to claim they're victims too when it comes to a lot of this stuff

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Anonymous #2 17h

and you don't see that as a problem??

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Anonymous #2 17h

so i'm an advocate for victims regardless of their gender! it mostly happens to little boys that grow up to become men who have been sexually abused. also just bc something affects one gender more than the other doesn't mean we shouldn't acknowledge the fact it happens to both. men's mental health is important

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Anonymous #2 17h

https://1in6.org/statistic/

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Anonymous #2 16h

Hey so fun fact the post didn’t bring up women or put them down. Secondly yes men can claim they are victims when they’ve been assaulted. Use some critical thinking skills before you spew some bs

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