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my best friend and I started hooking up and we said we like each other, not ready to date(I’m ok with this bc clear expectations were set)we had a big misunderstanding/miscommunication on his part a few weeks ago. now everything is different in a bad way.
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Anonymous 4d

How do I try talking to him about it when clearly he doesn’t want to

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Anonymous 3d

Can you elaborate on the misunderstanding/miscommunication on his part?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3d

Pretty much we established we wouldn’t interfere with eachothers love lives if we find more people, open relationships type stuff, and he thought I cock blocked him when he’s been supportive of me. We cleared it up but he just doesn’t seem to know how to get back to normal and it’s killing me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

Instead of asking me what happened with the girl(she wanted my number bc was embarrassed to ask or get his) he just assumed I discouraged her when in reality she went on a nice date with a guy and wanted to commit to him. I showed him the text messages and everything and he takes full responsibility but it’s just different now. I’m lowkey in love with him so this shit Is eating me up

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

That’s what happens when you fuck your friends unfortunately. You introduce sexual and/or romantic parts into the relationship and then it can go badly very quick, and I guarantee you’ve had awkward experiences with guys who you only dated for a week or so or hooked up once or twice, and now you don’t wanna talk to them anymore. You redefined the friendship to be that. Sorry.

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Anonymous 3d

Whose idea was the open relationship

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3d

It was a mutual thing

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

How mutual

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3d

We set our individual boundaries and then came to a conclusion together being open and not commited was best for us at the time

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

I think he might regret that decision

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3d

Regret doing anything in the first place or making it so casual

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

Opening the relationship. Have you been seeing other guys? You said he’s been supportive

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3d

He thinks I am, but I’m not which I was OK with him thinking I was because it seemed to bring him anxiety at first that I was being committed to him. Which obviously was a mistake on my part.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

Yeah idk maybe he thought you really wanted to keep it casual and he didn’t want to lose you

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3d

That would be the best case scenario

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

Idk you guys overcomplicated it

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