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Why are so many men so vehemently anti-commitment? I get wanting a casual fuck, but why does EVERY man I meet act like exclusivity or a relationship will kill him?

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Anonymous 3d

Maybe the men you hangout with are ho-es

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Anonymous 3d

Because they don’t like you

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Anonymous 2d

Another woman who thinks frat guys are all men

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Anonymous 2d

EVERY man you meet is not against being in a relationship, and I know that because you have met men who are IN relationships. So if you believe that EVERY man you meet hates the idea of a relationship, what that really tells me is that you have really shitty taste in single guys.

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Anonymous 2d

I feel like you're picking out of a group of men that would stand to benefit the least from entering into a committed relationship (young, handsome men in the prime of their life when they should be learning themselves and having fun). Try again when you're a bit older and there's more benefits for both of you to be in a long term relationship.

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Anonymous 2d

We’re not afraid of things that will kill us. But committing too fast to a woman who switches up on you without warning will fuck you up worse than anything. “Commitment” for women isn’t the same as for men. He has to rlly change his behavior and she stops being disposable to him, but she doesn’t and he’s just as disposable as ever. So as a man you lose something, and risk a lot. But those concessions aren’t generally reciprocated so it’s a losing trade unless you pretty much want to marry her

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Anonymous 2d

Also, if you “get wanting a casual fuck” then what is it you don’t get? That by itself would be a perfectly good reason to decline exclusivity. Are you thinking there should be some subset of men who DON’T want a casual fuck even if it makes sense for others? Like what distinction are you drawing there

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Anonymous 3d

Because we’re all done with that shit lmao

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Anonymous

#4 2d

A large portion of my sample size are definitely not in frats lol

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Anonymous

#5 2d

so do young beautiful women shouldn't be learning about themselves and having fun??

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Anonymous

#6 2d

I said both for a reason.

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Anonymous

#7 2d

I said I “get wanting a casual fuck” because I don’t slut shame and I’m not judging. Do whatever you want. The distinction I was making is that, while I get that, EVERY man I have asked have said they never ever want anything else, which is what confused me

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Anonymous

OP 2d

Really? They said “never”? That would confuse even me. In my experience it’s the opposite. Most every man wants to find his wife, but until he does he wants to get laid and keep his eyes open. Could it be you were asking in a context that made them think you meant “with you/right now”? Most men aren’t genuinely permanent bachelor types. But I’ve had women accuse me of that (or even of SAYING that) and I’ve found that saying anything remotely qualified or indecisive gets interpreted that way by

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Anonymous

#7 2d

women, even if you say you’re open to or eventually want a relationship. It always gets heard as “thinks he’s James Bond and will never settle down”.

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Anonymous

#7 2d

I would argue women are risking way more by getting involved with a man

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